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#360251 - 04/19/11 10:21 PM Telling
illbedat Offline


Registered: 01/12/11
Posts: 75
Loc: David Wright is AWESOME
So I did something today I thought I'd never do.. I wrote a letter to my dad... I finally told someone about the abuse. I feel a bit better, although I was locked in my room all day. I cant face him now. he actually came in and asked me how it happened... he told me i should talk about it.. I hid under my pillow and said I couldnt. dont really know where it goes from here, not sure i'll ever be able to look at him again. still cant believe i did it, doesnt feel real... not sure it was the best idea.

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#360255 - 04/19/11 10:56 PM Re: Telling [Re: illbedat]
Fissy Tsickens Offline
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Registered: 09/23/08
Posts: 466
Loc: Bassett, Virginia
I think we all second-guess ourselves after we disclose (at least I did). We condition ourselves to hide the truth, then we freak out when we muster the courage to STOP hiding the truth. It's like we can't put the toothpaste back in the tube after the toothpaste is out. I think it's great that your dad seems genuinely concerned for your well being, and is okay with you talking about it. Other dads might insist it didn't happen, or say stuff like, "It's over now; get over it." Hang in there! You are a strong, courageous SURVIVOR!

Peace,

John

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#360256 - 04/19/11 11:03 PM Re: Telling [Re: Fissy Tsickens]
kb8715 Offline
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Registered: 07/16/10
Posts: 808
Huge positive step...we are all proud of ya B.....

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#360259 - 04/19/11 11:22 PM Re: Telling [Re: illbedat]
franky Offline


Registered: 02/22/11
Posts: 19
Loc: Texas
hhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa WOW!!! you thought you could get away from me huh wink I am sooo happy for you dude!!!!!!!!!! This is a turning point. Congrats!!!!!


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#360260 - 04/19/11 11:24 PM Re: Telling [Re: illbedat]
jevin Offline
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Registered: 11/30/10
Posts: 44
Loc: somewhere on the Red Road
Brandon ...

This is a huge deal -- breaking the silence. I know it took a lot of strength and courage to punch through the fear. And each step fuels the next. It does get better.

Keep believing in yourself as we all do.

- Jev

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#360270 - 04/20/11 01:36 AM Re: Telling [Re: jevin]
1.healing Offline
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Registered: 09/10/10
Posts: 261
Loc: NW Ohio

Hi Brandon,

That was very brave of you and I'm glad your dad was concerned about you. I hope he'll become an ally in your healing and that he'll by example show others how to be supportive of you. I know how difficult it was to reach out like you did and it's such a good example of the bravery and goodness that is within you.

Congratulations on this success and best wishes for many more!

Gary

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#360333 - 04/20/11 09:22 PM Re: Telling [Re: illbedat]
Napoleon Offline


Registered: 04/06/11
Posts: 166
Loc: Utah
Originally Posted By: illbedat
not sure it was the best idea.


I went through the same thing just over a year ago. It means you have began to push though the shame, this is a very good thing.

Your Dad seems really supportive. My dad didn’t want to hear it, said “why are you doing this” blaimed me. My mom got mad blamed me “Why didn’t you tell (us back then)” I did tell, she decided I was lying. They eventually came around.

You are lucky to have such a supportive dad.

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#360364 - 04/21/11 06:18 AM Re: Telling [Re: Napoleon]
michael Joseph Offline
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Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
super proud of you

Hugs glad to be your friend

MJ

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#360365 - 04/21/11 06:20 AM Re: Telling [Re: michael Joseph]
michael Joseph Offline
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Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
the mustang is waiting for you if you promise not to go over 120

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#360366 - 04/21/11 06:28 AM Re: Telling [Re: michael Joseph]
Aberrant30 Offline


Registered: 01/29/10
Posts: 139
Loc: I live on the Emerald Coast, F...
OMG! BRANDON! I'M SO FREAKING PROUD OF YOU DUED! what a big step ((((((Brandon))))))) things will look up.

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The end of time and space
The beginning of every end,
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