Ryan, I had a similar thing happen to me by a School Nurse. I heard that my math teacher reported to the nurse that there was a small amount of blood in the chair that I had been sitting in. I was 12 and it/ that part of the CSA had just begun and I wasn't consealing it very well-later on I wore stuff in between my clothes
and underwear so if I began to bleed down there it wouldn't show through my pants/clothing.
So I was called to her office a couple of days later and she took me to a private examination room. She told me what my math teacher had found and I don't remember exactly what happened after that, my memory is a little blurry cause I started to Panic like crazy
She noticed a lot of bruises both fresh and old and some scrapes/nail and scratch marks and told me I had to remove my Shirt and Pants, I took off my shirt but NOT my Pants!!!! I would have fought her if she tried, I was so
scared! And she took pictures of the wounds and stuff, and she took alot of notes and kept asking me lots of question--She definitely knew something was up and that I wasn't being fully honest, like me telling her that it was just Physical Abuse(I didn't call it that when talking to her and I never admitted to the sexual abuse) she'd ask me did 'this person' touch you in ways that made you feel uncomfortable? Me: (softly) "yes." Did this person touch you in your private area(s) Me:("Oh God, Oh God") "No?!" (but I hesitated way
too long to answer and couldn't look her in the eyes, so I'm sure she thought I was not being honest with her. I was terrified at the time and confused!
She kept probing with the questions until I just stopped answering them saying that I don't wanna be here, I have to get back to class, "Nobody did anything to me", Etc.
I guess she figured out that she wasn't gonna get any more outta me at that time
At the time I was terrified and broke down told her that Someone, I didn't say who it was was beating me up regularly, I think I hinted at my brother, but he was a secondary culprit.
She kept calling me back regularly to her office but by that Time I was completely shutdown and denied everything and recounted everything I said, because I had mentioned that the Physical stuff was from my brother. The Nurse called my dada and threatened to call CPS on my family and my Dad sternly told me that they will "rip our family apart" and I have to tell the nurse that I made it all up and so I did, But I could tell the Nurse knew that I was lying but there was nothing she could do about it!
I was Too confused to at the time to help myself and she could have done a much better job by trying to be more gentle and sensitive with me instead of threatening me and saying that I will get into trouble if I don't tell her the truth and tell her everything that had happened. I felt like I was being interrogated.
It was just too much too quickly for me.
If she had said "I am hear to help you and you won't get in trouble for talking to me," and reassured me of that, then I probably would have told here what was really going on, but she didn't, instead she phoned my dad and threatened him and in turn he threatened me, and She also
threatened me that "if I did not tell her who was doing this and EVERYTHING that this person is doing, then I would be the one to get in trouble!"
Fuck Her, I thought.
At the time and even now (to this day) I'm unsure if she was trying to help me or had some other witch-hunt like agenda.
Anyway I am really feeling spent from bring this up.
I hope this helps in some way or helps some one else(I'm not really sure how it could?), maybe I just saw my own opportunity to talk about this topic-I am still really angry by the way, in case you can't tell, of the way people who should have been available to help me and protect me, approached the situation and handled the situation!!!!!!
Sorry Ryan, I don't wanna steal or divert your thread.
Feel free to PM me if you wanna know anything else-I don't wanna talk details in the Public forum