You're welcome! I'm glad what I've said/done has been helpful to you.
Something I've realized through this is how powerless I have been in my relationships. Between this and another incident involving my ex who wanted to meet and have "closure" (even though she's engaged to someone else), I am starting to take back my power in relationships, defining who I am and what I expect from the relationship. With the ex, I told her to get lost (which felt pretty good, really), and with this woman, I've basically said I will be treated as a human being and not be seen through the lens of my past or any mistakes I have made along the way. Most of what I wrote the woman has been ignored, and I was instead further insulted and called "ungrateful" for all of the "help" that they've given me (which has been little more than to tell me I need counseling). So, I've decided I am done with the relationship and will continue to seek to put people in my life who will walk with me instead of kicking me down every chance they get.
Like you, finding my power through this crap is a great thing - perhaps better than anything else that could've come of it.