I'm sorry for the pain you are going through right now. Your post doesn't state anything to do with childhood sexual abuse. Has he ever mentioned or intimated that he was abused as a child? Have you suspected that this happened? You say you "have been worried for some time now that something is not right." Do you think it has to do with sexual abuse? It's difficult to dive into any issues at play here, since it is not clear what we are dealing with. Thanks for you post, and I hope you can find some peace and solace soon.
Humble Alumnus of WoR Dahlonega 2011.