Thanks for sharing your perspectives with me. I've seen a change in my nephew in the last few months, I'm afraid he's feeling less like keeping a brave face and trying to stay above it all; like... What's the point if it doesn't make a difference, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. I am very concerned about what's going on inside his mind and with his spirit, because he's good at putting up a convincing front, Allan, as you learned to do yourself. I'm certain that he's not been sexually abused, so at least there's that.
This coming Autumn my nephew starts middle school in a different neighborhood from where his elementary school is. I'm giving serious thought to getting a place near his new school. My idea is to have my elderly dad, who requires some assistance with living and my nephew come live with me there. Or taking on the care of Dad and at least being closer to my nephews school and life and having his own bedroom available for anytime he could spend with us there. I think it would be good for him to learn to take on more responsibility for himself and learn to be helpful with some of Grandpa's care too. Mostly I think it would be good for him to be out of that daily Hell his stepdad creates for my sister and him.
This would need to be a six year commitment on my part, to last at least until my nephew's off to college. I've lived alone for over 13 years, the change for me would be dramatic! I love my dad, but he can really be a challenge to be around at times, triggering depression in me occasionally. Then there's his fading health and memory, all important considerations. Have any of you been in a similar situation, how did it work out, what were the positives and negatives?
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