I truly don't know what to do about my money situation. The court has ordered an un-sustainable drain on my income for divorce stuff. The other side is demanding even more. If they DO get what they are seeking, I won't even be able to pay rent.

The legal bills and consumer debt are astounding. I can't even pay for my rebuttal to their efforts to deal me this death-blow they seek.

I could seek bunkruptcy relief but that would not even dig me out of the real-time burden of monthly drain ordered by the court.

So what can I do? If I fail to pay anything that is ordered by the divorce court, the State of NH will throw me directly in jail pending a hearing. The back-log on these hearings is 8 months. NH is wildly aggressive about arresting males who fail to pay a dime on time. My neighbors son is in the same boat. I've seen them come for him. They use about 10 cops to do it too.

I've been corned in deadly ways before: as a child cornered for CSA at their will and pleasure...as a child of domestic violence. All cornering is pure hell for me. Its bad. It is a horror show on a grand scale. WHen I think about past or present cornorings I go into "vapor-lock." Its one thing that will push me beyond my emotional limits. I truly do not know what to do with this.

It's often too much to deal with post-abuse issues but having to deal with domestic and financial issues at the some time as well is overwhelming.

Often when you are overwhelmed it's like trying to dig a hole at the beach. You dig but get nowhere! Stop digging.

You have an attorney, right? Spend some time talking with him/her about this and your options.

Make a list of all the things and work on the first one you feel you can do something about right this moment. You can work on the others later but at least you're focused and occupied with doing something to relieve the burden. One thing at a time.

Robbie,

I read your post and I don't know what to say, except that I second what Devon said...
talk to your lawyer and see what are your options. There has got to be something you can do to help your situation and avoid going to jail.
I truly hope things work out for you and in the mean time, I will keep you in my prayers. I wish the best of luck to you!

There are not really any options. The court says "render unto Caesar what is Caesar's." If you are unemployed and your unemployment benifit runs-out...too bad! Pay her! If you get locked-up, you don't get out until you can prove that you have employment arranged when you do get out.

Every day in Family Court, the judge has a huge parade of offenders in for their non-support hearings. They are in orange jump-suits and full hands and feet shackles. By this point, they have already been in the slammer for maybe 8 months. The county jails are over capacity by multipliers.

Of course, by this point, I'll have lost any and all contact with my children forever.

If my life is a fighter-jet pilot, my instrument panel is lit-up like a Christmas tree with fault and failure warnings. The altimiter is spinning to a blur. Quick! What does the pilot do next?

Is this a modern version of debtor's prison?

In the time of Dickens, they would lock a guy up until he paid his debts. But if he's locked up, how can he ever find money to pay?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Debtors%27_prison

Allen

I know, this doesn't make sense. How can they expect someone to pay for child support if you have no work, and how can someone get a job, while in jail. This boggles my mind.
I'm so sorry Robbie.

NH, I believe, was the last stand of debtor prisons.

This modde of psychotic enforcement is the product of the popular nationwide hysteria from a decade+ ago that sought to end 'dead-beat dads.' Back then the economy was truly thriving. There was no excuse for not paying OR being employed in the legislature's view.

If you know the nature of the majority of legislators, you know why there are some fd-up laws.

Quick! What does the pilot do next?

He ejects to a more typical jurisdiction - one that holds a hearing BEFORE jailing for nonpayment.

well...yer half-right.

Start over from RE-BIRTH and that might be in a cell. Consider yourself worthy of the challenges ahead and take on one issue at a time. Break all the wrong and hurt down to more manageable tasks and KICK ASS................................