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#358096 - 03/30/11 02:13 PM Cardboard Testimonies
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My church is going to have a cardboard testimonies time on April 10.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RvDDc5RB6FQ&feature=youtube

I am thinking about participating with a cardboard testimony.

What should I say? Maybe: Kidnapped, tortured and abused as a child. On the back what do I say? Maybe: Life changed and giving to the lives of others?

Can anybody think of anything better to say?

Our pastor was formerly a drug addict. He will be telling his own story.

Allen





Edited by pufferfish (04/16/11 12:04 AM)

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#358099 - 03/30/11 02:51 PM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: pufferfish]
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With the anger and the feeling we are outside of society...it is not easy for survivors to just show and tell what is in our hearts without feeling that other people are not worthy of it or that we will be judged poorly.......Stikes me as an opportunity to show a little of what is truly in your heart.......one of those opportunities in recovery to be seen.


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#358140 - 03/30/11 10:22 PM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: RecoveryReady1]
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Maybe I could say (this is facetious)

I was made a victim of kiddie porn at age not quite 4, abused by grandfather, other boys, endured family dysfunctionality and toxic relationships, abused by neighbor teen, sexually abused and tortured by the leader at a boy scout summer camp for 2 weeks, etc., etc.

Then to turn the cardboard over, it would say: I'm a survivor of all that. I trust that God is good even so, and that he will bring about the adjudication of the unthinkable when I was a child.

I'm concerned I would need a very large piece of cardboard.

Allen


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#358147 - 03/30/11 11:23 PM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: pufferfish]
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When you were listing all taht...

I was picturing you with a huge stack of cardboard, flipping them our one after the other in rapid succession......

I can't say for you, as it's your story to tell, but I think for me I'd put...

Violated, Abused, Neglected, treated like I was worthless...

Declared Worth enough to die for, for my healing and redemption.

Or something like that.

Or perhaps...

Used for the sick perverse pleasures of others....

Redeemed to enjoy the pleasure of knowing my redeemer.

So many possibilities.


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#358149 - 03/31/11 12:06 AM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: JustScott]
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Thank you JustScott

Your ideas are encouraging and helpful.

I remember that you presented your story to your church. That was so good. I'm not sure I'm up to it.

Allen


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#358229 - 03/31/11 09:05 PM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: pufferfish]
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You can do all things brother! There is strength ready at hand to accomplish anything at all!

I'm preparing to share... everything with a fellow who I have entered into an accountability relationship on saturday.. this is going to be insanely hard indeed... but I've been told I need to do so, so it's going to happen! I know the strength I'll need will be there, and you will have what you need too!

:-)


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#358231 - 03/31/11 09:33 PM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: pufferfish]
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I know that you said that you were being facetious, but ... I was really floored and awed by the thought of you "cardboarding" all of that.

What you said in your post for your flip-side ("I'm a survivor of all that. I trust that God is good even so, and that he will bring about the adjudication of the unthinkable when I was a child") is truly the most beautiful thing I've heard in a very long time. I'm so glad I found this thread.

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Hope Springs 2010 WoR Alumnus
"I'm here, and I'm on the mend."


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#358232 - 03/31/11 09:35 PM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: JustScott]
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Best wishes to you, JustScott on your spilling it all out next Saturday. I've just sent a prayer for you. I believe that it will be a life-changing thing that you will do on Saturday - life-changing for you AND for the guy who will hear all that you have to say.

_________________________
Hope Springs 2010 WoR Alumnus
"I'm here, and I'm on the mend."


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#358285 - 04/01/11 10:52 AM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: EvanCan]
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Allen,
I cannot find the words to express the tremendous grief I feel in reading your post.
And the admiration for how far you have come.
Sincerely,
Steve


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#358375 - 04/02/11 01:01 AM Re: Cardboard Testimonies [Re: RecoveryReady1]
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I talked over this cardboard testimony idea with my T. My T is a practicing Christian and I trust him. He thought that pointing out that I was kidnapped and tortured and abused was somewhat voyeuristic. I think I understand what he meant. It is kind of sensationalistic to say it that way. Lots of old ladies in the congregation would pass out and ask for smelling salts and go home and pick up the phone.

Anyway, I wasn't kidnapped in the sense of being hauled off in the trunk of a car or something. I was merely taken out of bed at camp while I was asleep and then I awoke as I was being tied to the bed nude. Does that qualify as being kidnapped? And even if it does, what is the best way for me to communicate that?

Any ideas?

A complicating problem is that I'm somewhat paranoid and telling too much of my story might have a strong after-effect. When I wrote out pufferfish story part 5 for MS, I isolated for a couple of weeks.

Allen





Edited by pufferfish (04/02/11 01:07 AM)

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