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#357086 - 03/19/11 01:43 PM Re: Kalevala [Re: petercorbett]
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Registered: 03/09/11
Posts: 73
Loc: NY
Pete,

You should be proud of what you now do to help others smile

My T suggested my obsession with perfection is a result of the abuse, and my eagerness to please him, and also that it's a little unrealistic. It's a little upsetting to think my success and achievements are due to a man who groomed taught me to be perfect at what he wanted. But I'm proud of my career, of what I have done to help my community and fellow human beings.

-Tommy

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Inside all of us there's a wild thing.

-My favorite book.

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#357091 - 03/19/11 03:31 PM Re: Kalevala [Re: petercorbett]
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Registered: 09/10/10
Posts: 261
Loc: NW Ohio
Hey Peter,

There's no shame in getting a GED and enlisting in the Air Force you should feel pride in doing both! So many of us guys with CSA/SA way too often struggled with learning. We experienced too many obstacles as barriers to our educations. In my case I missed a lot of school during the years of the abuse. The result was that I missed out on a lot of learning, there were huge chunks missing from my education. When I was present I was so anxious and dissociative that I continued to miss out on even more.

I wonder if our mothers knew each other, they seem at least to be kindred spirits. My mom loved me in her way, but was damaging too. I once told my CSA T that I thought that Mom had probably done the best she could and the T said "Perhaps, but there are times when a persons best just isn't good enough!" I was sorta shocked at her saying that, but it made sense and it put some of the responsibility for not protecting me right back onto who it belonged to, back onto my mother.

In me, my mom raised a classic underachiever, I'll bet we could tell each other some stories! I understand where your coming from, I'm with you.

Gary

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"It's never too late to be what you might have been."

George Elliot

"You cannot find peace by avoiding life."

Virginia Woolf

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