I know for me there will be highs and lows, ebbs and flows regarding my healing. Lately I seem to be in a giddy mood. I don't know if I'm running or trying to make the best of things or just experiencing life on the bright side. If I have seemed insensitive or locker-roomish, I apologize. I do try to help but sometimes may get carried away in an off color conversation. I'll be more cautious, point taken.

well I was reading this post but did not have a reason to add to it until I was just in chat and somehting happened.

Name calling is just not good, I know we forget what this place is about. We are here to heal.

And just incase we have forgotten maybe this thread will remind us.

MJ

Thank you for your post Keith.
I thought it was I whom had a warped opinion about he chat room, but I have been going in there less and less for the same reason. and I do feel bad for any new member that might come into the chat room, not knowing what to expect while seeking healing and he would run into some rather uncomfortable situations and/or conversations.
Thank you for bringing this up, you made an excellent point.

I have been thinking about giving up on the chat room altogether and just read and respond to posts for that same reason.
Not that I'm trying to be selfish by any means, because I do like to support our brothers specially new ones, but if my own recovery in jeopardy, I might have to choose to not go in there at least until I'm in a better emotional state. I've been attending the Rt's and HC's because I see the value in them, but I don't know what to think about the chat room anymore...

Thank you again! this issue needed to be addressed.

Sincerely,
Czaesar

Keith, thanks for your post. I myself like the chat as I do not feel so isolated. I agree that there is a time and place for what you speak of: the chat room is not that place.

Rob

Mac80.

Welcome!

I am glad that your first time in the chat room was a good experience for you and received the support that you needed. After all that what this is all about; supporting each other.

The deal here is that many of us can sometimes be "emotionally vulnerable" and that's why we go in the chat room, to seek support and get over the emotional vulnerability, as one may not be able to get over that emotional state on his own.

Normally when someone is in need of support because they are feeling emotionally unstable at the time, they say so, and that person would get the help and support he needs from other survivors as that is the purpose of this chat room.

Sometimes, the emotional vulnerability may cause one to get in a panicky mode, and that person might not have any other resources than to recourse to this site and seek the help he needs to get over a possible panic attack.

My point is, that every single member/survivor has the right to come in here whether or not they are prone to panic attacks. and everyone "should" come to chat if they have the need to do so. No one here has the right to say someone should not go into the chat room if they have the need to be there just because they might be prone to panic attacks or any other emotional issues for that matter that a person may be experiencing at the time...

The point Keith is trying to convey is that we need to keep the chat room safe for every single one of us, by providing a safe environment for all, free of unacceptable behavior, disrespect for others and even vulgarity and demeaning language or anything that may cause someone to have a bad experience in the chat room, not a hostile environment as sometimes the chat room can be.

I truly hope that you keep continuing to receive the help you need and answers to your questions without ever having to deal with a negative
experience. Please remember that this site was created for "ANYONE" that needs and seek the help for his recovery... Heal well!

Respectfully,

Czaesar

Gabriel,

I commend you for taking the lead in teaching new members to avoid possible triggering situations. It's very sad you actually have to do that and that even you have to deal with such negative experiences.

Kudos to you primo!!! you are a very valuable member of this community of survivors that we are.

Thank you for being the way you are, we all appreciate you!

Sincerely,

Cz

Gabriel,

I commend you for taking the lead in teaching new members to avoid possible triggering and uncomfortable situations. It's very sad you actually have to do that and that even you as a seasoned member has to deal with such negative experiences.

Kudos to you primo!!! you are a very valuable member of this community of survivors that we are.

Thank you for being the way you are, we all appreciate you!

Sincerely,

Cz

I stopped going to chat room long ago after getting ambushed by someone, who knew a lot about my story (from my posts) and threw it all on my face, and even tried asking me questions on the sly....for someone else....All this occurred in the presence of a moderator, who didn't step in..

I wouldn't advise chat to new users either....discussion board is good...it provide space to think what you are speaking (writing)...another disadvantage of a badly managed chat room is that it turns it into a social club, where many people hang around for other than healing needs...

Well said Keith! I'm one of those staying away from the chat room for now. Lately, it's been a rather uncomfortable place to go to for support.

I thank you again for bringing this issue up; hopefully it will turn into a safe place for people to go to when in need of support, specially for new members.

Sincerely,