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#356267 - 03/12/11 09:46 AM Re: some things that friends say [Re: wayne9]
LandOfShadow Offline

Registered: 12/11/07
Posts: 684
Loc: Minneapolis, Minnesota USA
It's "society" that's wrong not you.

Stop talking to those friends, wayne9. They're good people but aren't experts in sexual abuse. Responses like those reinforce your shame, guilt and isolation. Find helpful, supportive responses, not stuff that you feel shamed, mis-understood or isolated by.

Keeping the secret does not help you. You have to talk about it, but with who? My thoughts about that are here

Et par le pouvoir d’un mot Je recommence ma vie, Je suis né pour te connaître, Pour te nommer

And by the power of a single word I can begin my life again, I was born to know you, to name you

Paul Eluard

#356286 - 03/12/11 02:15 PM Re: some things that friends say [Re: wayne9]
Giggles Offline

Registered: 12/29/10
Posts: 14
Loc: Oregon
Victim. It is hard to swallow. Shame and other badness we know.
I've had some friends and fam. concerned of my healing and whom is involved. It is very difficult to have them with me on the journey. Still working on that. Love them and it hurts me, them knowing me my pain, must let them in more. sorry off topic. Been on here too long. Break.

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