I wrote a post very similar to this one only a week ago. I thought that 'coming out' was a BIG mistake...even though I have only told my wife and my therapist. I am beginning to trust that telling the secret was a good thing, though. I buried it for almost 33 years. Telling was going to free me instantly. Then, when it didn't, I panicked and told both my wife and my therapist that I made a mistake. You can't take back telling, though. So I had to work with it. I think this is something we all struggle with. Logically, I know it's better that I got it off my chest and out of the darkness...but there are still times when I'm afraid I did the wrong thing. Just have faith that it will get better...that you will see that you did the right thing. I do.