No. Hind-sight being 20/20, I’d run like hell.
Not because of the CSA per se, but because after more than ten years from his first disclosure to me, he is still unable to consider recovery work for the CSA and/or the resultant PTSD/drug addictions. I fear he will go to his grave carrying this. It is like living with an automaton.
I could deal with the likelihood that survivors can get worse before getting better. I could deal with the isolation and loneliness while the marriage is set aside during recovery work. Dealing with the seemingly never-ending denial that his CSA affects him, affects his relationships, and affects our marriage is gut wrenching and appears to have no end in sight. So, if I had known ten years ago that there would be no progress toward recovery, very little intimacy between us, that we’d be at exactly the same place: No, I would not have stayed.
It is true that I might not have learned all I’ve learned if I had not lived these past years ten years also surviving the aftereffects of my husband’s CSA. But I also would not have had to do my own recovery work for the mental abuse trauma I've endured from him either. Just know that it takes the effort of Titans to maintain or regain your mental health living long term within a mentally unhealthy environment. Also know that understanding is the Booby Prize.