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#351444 - 01/21/11 02:00 AM Blockhead or Romancer
Sacred_Sage Offline
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Registered: 12/19/07
Posts: 141
So I worked up the courage to tell a girl that I had been considering dating her yesterday evening...

We are really good friends, and I don't want to ruin that friendship. I told her this. I also work with her for the interest in background.

I also stated that why I bring it up is cause she was kind of in the dumps and I thought it might help (and I mean it honestly... though I think this statement is going to do me in. frown ). Though I didn't tell her this, but I was taking a chance with telling her about how I felt.

I also told her that I thought she was beautiful, funny, etc.

I also told her that I thought I couldn't handle anything past a friendship at the moment. (She knows that I was abused) I told her given time, who knows where we could wind up...

I got a deer in the headlight response, so I don't know if this is a good thing or bad. I guess I'll find out later on this morning or this afternoon.

Just really anxious...

Cameron

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#351452 - 01/21/11 06:17 AM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: Sacred_Sage]
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Registered: 01/18/11
Posts: 106
Hugs to you, Cameron.

It took a lot of courage to put yourself out there like that. Way to go. I applaud your honesty and strength.

r.m.


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#351460 - 01/21/11 08:34 AM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: r.m.]
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Cameron major points for leaving your comfort zone and taking your shot.

I hope it works out for you but you know the old saying...if you don't first succeed.....

My own advice, single rose: http://www.rkdn.org/roses/colors.asp

Sometimes actions speak even louder then words....

Keith

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#351467 - 01/21/11 10:05 AM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: Sacred_Sage]
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Registered: 12/30/10
Posts: 951
Loc: southern California
Cameron,

There is no shame in "I care about you."

The deer-in-headlights look is understandable, considering you gave her a surprising revelation.

Romance evaded me the first part of my adulthood, but I had a dramatic turnaround when I stopped pursuing it and worked on attracting it.

You're on the right road. Keep a steady pace to healing and all will be well for you.

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#351480 - 01/21/11 12:09 PM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: WriterKeith]
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Registered: 12/15/09
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Loc: Minnesota
Way to go !

We r only responsible for making the effort.
And wemcontinue to ask for what we need.

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It matters where you go" Frank Turner

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#351487 - 01/21/11 01:02 PM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: Sacred_Sage]
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Registered: 12/05/10
Posts: 433
Or...a man genuinly attempting to reach out to a woman with his authentic feelings.


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#351500 - 01/21/11 02:42 PM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: Sacred_Sage]
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Registered: 11/29/10
Posts: 362
Loc: American South
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#351516 - 01/21/11 06:06 PM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: tommyb]
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Registered: 12/01/10
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Loc: PA
Cameron,
Thinking really positive thoughts for you. Way to reach out! What a step!

Matt

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“Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud.”
Hermann Hesse

Hope Springs alumnus 2011

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#351809 - 01/24/11 09:17 PM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: 1227ms]
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Well, she was still confused... after I explained it as simple as I could.

I kept on getting questions on what I meant... which wouldn't bother me so much if I knew she was honestly confused; however, I think she is playing games with me, and I don't have the patience for it.

So I sent another message on what I meant, and I haven't heard back from her. She said that our relationship was going back to normal as she had given up trying to understand (or something like that), and I'm thinking that may have been for the best.

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#351819 - 01/24/11 10:14 PM Re: Blockhead or Romancer [Re: Sacred_Sage]
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Registered: 11/29/10
Posts: 362
Loc: American South
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