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#349666 - 01/03/11 03:20 PM Perp irks me
sugarbaby Offline


Registered: 08/17/08
Posts: 361
Does it irk any other wives that their H's perp never had to answer for what they did? - assuming that is the case.

My H's perp did time for other sex offenses but never had to answer for what he did to my H. P*sses me off STILL. This is like 2.5 years after H disclosed to me and I STILL want to hunt this guy down and beat him with a metal bat.

Anyone else?


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#349673 - 01/03/11 04:46 PM Re: Perp irks me [Re: sugarbaby]
sono Offline
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Registered: 07/19/09
Posts: 1069
Sugarbaby,

This is my favorite post of all time at MS!!!!

Go get 'em! My wife would join you. Lol

All the best,

Kevin

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#349674 - 01/03/11 04:52 PM Re: Perp irks me [Re: sono]
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Registered: 12/03/10
Posts: 30
Loc: Southern California
My wife would like to join you as well.


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#349677 - 01/03/11 05:27 PM Re: Perp irks me [Re: jorgea73]
Mulligan Offline
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Registered: 06/15/10
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Loc: USA
I think you are speaking a natural valid response. My wife would not hesitate to vendicate given the appropriate opportunity

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#349706 - 01/03/11 11:18 PM Re: Perp irks me [Re: Mulligan]
TwoStep Offline


Registered: 01/02/11
Posts: 31
Amen sister. Give me just 10 minutes in a room alone with her... only one of us would come out. That would be me.

That said...without regard to statutes of limitations and all that as far as filing an actual suit against the person, I wonder if reports can be filed with a state's child protective services, even long after the fact. Not that it is remotely close to justice (nothing is), but a matter of public record if nothing else.


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#349740 - 01/04/11 09:26 AM Re: Perp irks me [Re: TwoStep]
sugarbaby Offline


Registered: 08/17/08
Posts: 361
wow - I didn't think i had so much company there!

I figured I'd get a lot of responses suggesting therapy!! smile


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#349748 - 01/04/11 10:41 AM Re: Perp irks me [Re: sugarbaby]
sono Offline
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Originally Posted By: sugarbaby
I figured I'd get a lot of responses suggesting therapy!!


Not from the guys, no way! I think we all pretty much like the idea of someone going and doing what we were too powerless to do back then...particularly if it's the woman in our lives!

K

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#349768 - 01/04/11 04:46 PM Re: Perp irks me [Re: sono]
Castle Offline


Registered: 10/03/09
Posts: 733
Loc: NJ
I'll just add that my lovely wife would love to get her hands on the perp for a few minutes....I'd put everything I had and borrow some on her winning..LOL

Seriously though...I have discussed the fact that for years I buried this info and learned to be so fake around him that I was able to do it with ease....27+ years of practice...for the wife this is a fresh wound....that and I'm a cool husband and she would defend me to the end.

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#349773 - 01/04/11 05:47 PM Re: Perp irks me [Re: Castle]
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Registered: 11/18/10
Posts: 16
Hi SugarBaby,

ihihihihi. You have hit the proverbial nail on the head. I would have loved to get my hands on my fiance's perp. Does that make me a bad person?? I dont know. I think the feeling is a universal one.

Look at how child sex offenders are attacked by mobs in prisons, purely for the type of crime they have committed. I think it's instinctive for us as wives/partners to want to protect who we love!

My fiance's perp has been dead for a few years now, but a really dark part of me wishes he was still alive just to get my hands on him....Ooooooh, I can easily visualize sharpening some ninja stars!:-)



Edited by SeekingStrength (01/04/11 05:49 PM)
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#349801 - 01/05/11 03:47 AM Re: Perp irks me [Re: SeekingStrength]
Lost Spark Offline
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Registered: 12/04/04
Posts: 73
Loc: Chicago, IL
Sugarbaby,

My H's perp is still very present in our lives, to this very day. It's a family member and unfortunately, my H is still early in recovery and cannot come to to terms with his Perp. I, however, hold an overabundant amount of hatred and disgust towards him. Every time I see him, I want to just tear him apart. My H remains civil and respectful, I, just sit there and stir in hate towards the man who took both of our lives away, with his acts...

Someone hand me a virtual bat. I'll join in.

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