....daughters were molested by their dad. She has a 10 year old son as well.....Lots to be "aware" of.
Lots of deep breaths. This is Justice in Action
. If I ever wanted to be apart of the process of getting justice for the awful actions of the perpetrators/monsters this is it. I am apart of the recovery process for this mom and myself. As an adult, I can do this. I have to be careful to take care of little me as this process frightens him. Whether this CSA happens to boys or girls the ramifications are the same.
I am going to go into detail here as a way to communicate "healthy" justice and resolution from CSA. For me as a survivor this "meeting" was just as powerful than a 1:1 with my therapist=T or maybe 10 visits with my T. I will not get legal Justice for the perps in my life.
What a wonderful meeting!!! A dear friend - a fellow survivor was there for support and healing for the 1st hour. This happened unexpectantly but was very needed. I never thought to ask for help. Thanks Allan.
It was a meeting of survivors really. The most wonderful part of the meeting was the "telling" of your truths. This Mom who I will call L is a survivor as well as myself. I "learned" so much from L. She is the embodiment of a supportive - protective, loving and joyous - participant in her daughters, and son's life. As I listened to her speak, being a father myself, I at times was filled with great sadness and anger for the man those girls and boy called "dad". Many moms for decades in the past "ignored" such heidous happenings. This mom as soon as she found out set into motion 1. the capture of her "husband" at the time 2. the protection of her children - they had to move 3. the prosecution of the perp which included supporting her daughers 4. the daily care of herself, and her children and many more items....
I was really listening and felt the anger and incredible sadness for the assaults that the girls and possibly the boy went through. L told me of the actions of the perp and shared his statements/beliefs/excuses for his behavior which we have heard from the perps in our lives. One statement the perp made in court was "it was the way they showed me how they loved me". I heard this as a little boy so many times. What hogwash!!!!
This makes me sick, angry and disgusted.
This meeting is one of the biggest healing and CONNECTING moments of my life. I am honored to share it with you my brothers.
little Donnie and big Donnie