Thanks for the feedback guys, much appreciated.
Not taking it personal is the key but that doesn't always make it any easier. I get tired of hearing the same things over and over... There also comes a point where it is nessassry for me to stand up for what I believe in and a time to walk away when I know my words will do nothing.
This sums up my feelings exactly and maybe contains the solution as well. I have been around long enough to see this pattern occur over and over and I am tired of it. Just because I understand the process of what straight or confused men go through in regard to SSA, for example, and their healing journeys does not diminish certain feelings I have of being invalidated, minimised or offended.
The struggle I am having is in being able to separate myself from the negative messages which abound and which are not overt, but implied or internalised expressions about being gay. Mind you when it comes to spirituality I feel like people think they have carte blanche to vilify gay men and this infuriates me, whenever that issue comes up.
As efm said I am just going to have to take a deep breath and like Derek maybe just walk away.
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The complicating factor in all this is that I think this issue is triggering me and that's why I start feeling unsafe. While I know that abuse is not necessarily about the sexual orientation of the perpetrators, I was abused by men who were fiercely "heterosexual", but who just happened to like boys on the side.
So while I haven't quite figured out the mechanics of why this issue is triggering me, I recognise and own the fact that it is and I am aware of it. Sigh...