My abuser took away my ablity to have kids,but god brought an great lady and her little girl into my life. Helping raise her to be a strong independent women has given me great joy.
For all you out there that have a lady in your life but no kids, don,t run from having kids because they could bring great joy to your life.
Cement, how many fathers out there could give an rats ass about their kids. You are helping raise that child and you shouldn,t feel any less important being an stepfather.
Eddie I know alot about what you are going through, 10 years ago when my girl was 13, i was super hard to live with. Never told my wife or girl what was going on about my abuse just took my pain and anger out on them. The one thing I did learned to do was take a 13 second break before saying mean things. If I was super mad then i would walk away. As your little girl grows into a lady your arguments may get super big ,My girl and I had an special word that would stop our arguments and make us take a time out, if it was said by either of us. It was our relief valve.
My father was alse part of my life when I was growing up but he felt much pain in not having protected me and my brother from the abuse of the church. It was hard for him to deal with such evil in the 1960,s. IT,s funny how our abuse has effected so many others. Muldoon
Teach the Children to Never Hide in the Silence