welcome rubens girl, most women do think it is them
it is difficult for women to understand what men go thru with abuse even if they were abused
it is just the way it works, and I have not answers for helping women understand, but as a man I would say love him in other ways if he can handle touch give him a back rub, hugs, and tell him u love him and be there
Standing together is so much better than hiding in the dark.
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