I have frequented this website, using it as an information source for the past 6 months to help my boyfriend in his rape recovery process. Before I type anything else I have to say THANK YOU MS! You have helped me help him. I normally would just come & read the family and friends section, but I never joined. Until today.
Today was rough. We went to a Halloween party last night and he a panic attack and we left, he didn't want to talk to me about what triggered the attack, not abnormal so I let it go. Today, during dinner he brought up what happened and the subsequent lack of discussing it. He said that even though we are both rape survivors, he couldn't always talk to me because it was different for him and I don't really understand what he went through (it hurt and felt a little dismissive of my experience, but I do understand his POV). I mentioned that he should join this site. He told me he can't trust men.He said he didn't even trust himself and he doesn't understand why I trust him, because of things that have happened in his life (he is also a survivor of secondary domestic violence- having spent most of his childhood watching his father beat his mother).
When I tried to respond he got up from the table, walked out of the room and went to bed. He has not said a word since 6 pm, he is not sleeping- just laying there. It is like he is just... not. This is new, I have never seen him do this, and I am scared. If anyone has any advice I could use it. I don't know if I did something wrong or if I shouldn't have tried to say anything. I don't know what to do. I do know that I love him and he is hurting and I want to help him.
Sorry this is so long, but I am kind of in panic mode.