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#343457 - 10/28/10 10:22 PM Rumors of my death...
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 507
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
My father called me today to tell me that he had a premonition that in 3 days' time - on Halloween - I will die.

This is odd, as my father - albeit very religious - does not believe in premonitions and similar things. He has never done anything like this before.

How am I supposed to respond to this?

In the unlikely event that his premonition is correct, I would like to say a final fond farewell to all of my wonderful MS brothers. I love you all VERY, VERY much. Good luck and Godspeed in your recoveries, guys.

Hopefully , I will chat with all of you on Nov. 1st...

Your loving brother, as always,

Bobcat


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#343460 - 10/28/10 10:39 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
looking2heal Offline
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Registered: 06/15/10
Posts: 100
Loc: pa
there was a time where id repond 2 this with tears and cry at the thought of lossing a brother like you...but you see i dont believe that you will die...i agree with the person in chat that told you that death doesnt always mean phyiscal death.....from someone that ran for years and didnt talk 2 family...it could be that he feels that a side of you died ....look at you out in the world seeing and doing new things ....brother i look forward 2 the next time we meet which will be after halloween...i love you brother and as i say it i know that its hard but put this out of your mind its nothing...its less then nothing!....with LOVE from your brother



Edited by looking2heal (10/28/10 10:40 PM)
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#343461 - 10/28/10 10:40 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
CruxFidelis Offline


Registered: 06/16/10
Posts: 486
Loc: NJ
wtf???

in the beginning, i thought it was all the pain meds in my system when i read this, i thought I was high.

I had to read it a few times to realize your dad actually said that.

that is odd. i hope your dad is not correct. i'm pretty sure that if it was your time to go, God (at least MY God) would give you a more credible messenger to give you that kind of notice. I think on Nov. 1st (all saint's day) you should trick or treat at his house dressed as the grim reaper and tap him on the shoulder for saying that kind of nonsense to you.

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#343462 - 10/28/10 10:41 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: CruxFidelis]
CruxFidelis Offline


Registered: 06/16/10
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Loc: NJ
oh, and if you died that day i would be very, very sad because i would have lost a brother, too.

but I don't think that is going to happen.

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#343463 - 10/28/10 10:46 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: CruxFidelis]
blaidd Offline
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Loc: Australia
Look forward to you being around on Nov 1st.

What a weird thing for your dad to say.

I like CF's idea about trick or treating at his house as the grim reaper. I reckon that has merit hehe smile

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#343467 - 10/28/10 11:07 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: blaidd]
InsideTheWall Offline


Registered: 01/10/09
Posts: 289
Unless you have an extremely time sensitive date of departure from a doctor, I would write this off as superstitious idiocy.


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#343476 - 10/29/10 12:32 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: InsideTheWall]
pkincrisi Offline


Registered: 04/08/10
Posts: 96
Loc: Wisconsin
Bobcat,

I don't even know where to begin. My gut is telling me that is some sort of desparate act on the part of your father. I don't wish to speak ill of him, but this is not typical behavior of someone who is religious or no. I think this might stem from the fact that you have taken steps and made literal and metaphorical moves.

I have absolutely no doubts that you will be here on November 1st and beyond. I know it's easy for me to say, but you need to dismiss what your father said and not give it a second thought. You are moving forward and don't need the mind games.

I love you, Bobcat!!

Steve

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#343496 - 10/29/10 07:51 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: pkincrisi]
Mountainous Buck Offline
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Registered: 12/15/09
Posts: 1626
Loc: Minnesota
Welcome back Bobcat!

Not "I love you, son" or "I'm proud of youmand have great hopes for the man you are becoming".

Sorry-but your dad sounds seriously deficient in the fathering field.
(my dad ripped me up verbally and threatened me with a crowbar in the last weeks of his life-they come unglued at times and have nothing to offer but destruction I guess.)
We all die-in a variety of ways-in this place-the old me shut down repressed isolated hijacked fearful sad angry and hopeless dies a little each day i take a step forward.

Have a great day-it's all we got.

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#343502 - 10/29/10 09:22 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: Mountainous Buck]
king tut Offline
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Loc: UK
Dear Bobcat,

I wouldn't worry too much about this premonition. It isn't a very considerate thing for your dad to say, who knows why he said it, but i don't think it is because he can see into the future.

I look forward to talking to you after Halloween! (maybe your dad said this as some kind of Halloween set-up?).

your friend
Lewis

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#343506 - 10/29/10 09:43 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: king tut]
Silly Offline
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Registered: 04/21/10
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Loc: Virginia
Yo Bobcat!!!

Look at it this way, ya' still got 8 lives left! Talk to you soon bro (hi to Gary)

Silly boy

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#343513 - 10/29/10 11:05 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: Silly]
Castle Offline


Registered: 10/03/09
Posts: 734
Loc: NJ
Im gonna offset it and say....I see a big lotto win in your future....remeber us little people.

LOL

H

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#343514 - 10/29/10 11:19 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: Castle]
Happy Birthday Avery46 Offline


Registered: 09/23/10
Posts: 1243
Loc: USA
Bobcat,

My dear friend. You will be around for a long time.

I know my mom would say to me "I gave you life and I can take it away". Well she was DEAD wrong. SHE was dead wrong.

See you later - have a great holiday.

Donnie

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#343518 - 10/29/10 11:38 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: Avery46]
Ischyros Offline
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Registered: 02/26/10
Posts: 78
Loc: Los Angeles, CA
Bobcat my brother,

I think your father is telling the truth about his feelings about you. Your recovery is deepening. You are changing and growing and finding a strength and independence you haven't known before. You are becoming a whole, free, adult man - and your father, for reasons of his own, is experiencing that with grief and sadness. He was just fine all these years with you as you were, and the "you" he "knew" is, from his point of view, "dying."

But from the point of view of your brothers who love you - you are entering into a whole new life! And your brothers are right about this. And your father is wrong.

I'm looking forward to watching you grow and flourish through a long and happy life! -Mike.

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With the hopeful and the willing
With the open and the strong...

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#343577 - 10/29/10 04:28 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: Ischyros]
Riley Offline
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Registered: 01/11/09
Posts: 597
Loc: USA
Sounds like somebody fell asleep in front of AMC's Fear Fest. lol

Anyway, hopefully talk to you soon Bobcat.


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#343584 - 10/29/10 05:32 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: Riley]
kidneythis Offline


Registered: 11/08/09
Posts: 1558
Well if it does happen, go knowing I was helped by you being yourself here on MS. Its wonderful to see someone be so open and free when we all know how closing off the damage is.

OH in case your poast wasn't the tongue in cheek thing I thought, remember magic is not real.

KT

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#343663 - 10/30/10 12:57 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: Silly]
many_mees Offline
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Registered: 10/23/09
Posts: 286
BobCat,

I dont put much stock in the premonition coffer, pal. So I wouldn't worry abt it.

Besides... All Good cats Go To Heaven. (Title of movie changed)

Love you much BobCat and for the record... Should this occur? I would indeed be very sad. But only for awhile.

Sambro


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#343781 - 10/31/10 04:58 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: many_mees]
kb8715 Offline
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Registered: 07/16/10
Posts: 808
The way I look at it that would make November 1 your new birthday then. I will be the first here to say Happy BDay Bobcat!

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#343839 - 11/01/10 12:43 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: kb8715]
CruxFidelis Offline


Registered: 06/16/10
Posts: 486
Loc: NJ
happy rebirthday, bobcat! today is the 1st day of the rest of your life smile

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#343850 - 11/01/10 04:34 PM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: CruxFidelis]
kidneythis Offline


Registered: 11/08/09
Posts: 1558
Hey Bobcat did you survive Halloween? :-]

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#343913 - 11/02/10 08:34 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: kidneythis]
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 507
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
Well, my brothers...you were all correct.

Rumors of my death were greatly exaggerated.

The Bobcat is still alive, and he wants to shout out a great big

THANK YOU!!!

to his brothers who encourage him and love him so much.

I love you too, guys. All of you. You each hold a special place in my heart, and always will.

With much brotherly love, as always,

Bobcat


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#343916 - 11/02/10 08:42 AM Re: Rumors of my death... [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
CruxFidelis Offline


Registered: 06/16/10
Posts: 486
Loc: NJ
that's a big thank you, all right smile

glad you decided to stick around. i still think you should trick or treat your dad's house dressed like the grim reaper

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