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basicly i have decided to quit identifying as gay/bisexual which i have for about the last 9 years(15-24yrs)
iv decided to do this as a kinda owning my feelings about my perp. a girl who i developed feelings for and was very badly damaged by. i have used men as a kinda safty net, the gender i can be involved with becuase it isnt as dangerous for me.
i want to really admit and understand my feelings about what happened to me without the escape of 'its ok im actually queer' or to hide from my issues with women

so publicly (on facebook) i announced that i am straight now.

this was really hard to do, as iv been champion to gay causes for a long time. i want to admit the fullness of this pain and not hid behind anything. so yeah

i am straight

Vanity,

This is great that you identify with being straight. We all have our own lives/journeys to live.

Eventhough I was married - been divorced a long time - when I came out, I have to come to the conclusion for myself that I am attracted to men. Bottom line "identity" for me is that I am gay - attracted to men.

In spite of the fact that I was abused by my mom and men I still find men to be those whom I am attracted to.

I wish you happiness in your journey as you deserve it.

Donnie

This is good that you found your identity..
I'm gay and always have been.. I use to tell people I was straight until 1996.

Keryn.

Whoever you are is the best person you can be in this life. It is a shame that it takes us years to realize that - it did for me anyway.

You can't go wrong by being the real you.

That's wild - good for you. Did you face any kind of backlash for identifying yourself that way?

Congrats on finding the truth about yourself. I'm inspired by your courage. Thanks for sharing that and putting yourself out there!

Congratulations, Vanity. I came out at the end of my freshman year in college. From eight until eighteen, I hardly ever spoke, had the social skills of a five-year-old. Suddenly, when I told my best friend at the time I was gay, I started speaking. I rapidly picked up social skills. For the first time, I could hold a real conversation with someone. It felt as if I had escaped from a prison cell. Being gay seemed like the best thing in the world. Then, the summer between my sophomore and junior years, I remembered the abuse. I told my friends and family I was bi, or "nothing." I was greeted with jokes, incredulity and befuddlement. The truth was, after reexamining my whole life and taking three showers a day for a month, crying, huddled in the tub, I didn't want any man to ever touch me again.

At twenty-eight, I still consider myself, bi, or "nothing." To make my life easier, I'll label myself as gay, or straight to others. But either way, it feels like a lie. I've developed strong feelings for men. I've developed strong feelings for women. I don't enjoy sex, period.

Sometimes, I reflect back on that year wistfully, when I knew what I was, or thought I did. I wonder what my life would have been like if I had never faced the abuse. But I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have been happy. I was careless. I was self-destructive. I still didn't like sex, but didn't dwell on why that wasn't normal. My taste in men was atrocious. I got drunk three nights a week. I hardly weighed more than a hundred pounds.

So, I chose this frustrating, lonely, convoluted path instead of a simple one. And though it hasn't turned out wonderfully, yet, I think I made the right decision. Saying I'm one thing, or the other wouldn't be true to myself. My body is naturally more attracted to men, yet is repulsed by men too. I think I would be able to care about a woman more.

I'm comfortable being "nothing." I realize I will never be "gay." I will never be "straight." That doesn't mean I can't find happiness. Don't listen to anyone else. You have to be what feels right and what suits you best. I hope your decision brings you fulfillment.

Any chance to get to know yourself better is valuable. Any courage shown in claiming your identity in front of others is to be commended. You are taking bold steps, and I thank you for your honesty.

comming out straight is good

it is hard fig out who we are and

when we do it is very helpful in moving forward

I commend you on this

Michael Joseph

My take is different-I think labels about how we practice our sexuality are divisive and none of others' business.'

I believe we all have a unique, loving, intimate part of ourselves that longs to express itself. As a survivor of sexual abuse, this as shut down so completely that sex was more a function of the possible, known, taught,'and an expression of anger and power and shame.

Leaving those sexual practices behind I am learning true intimacy -for myself, my brothers, and the person I am committed to.

I guess I think sexuality is like wealth-comparing separates me from you-and I wish you health and happiness and you learn to deal with it (sex, wealth) from a nurturing, healthy place. And don't flaunt it!

Kudos to whomever finds their way.
As a teenager, I knew absolutley that another guy was in my future. Only after others found out (church and family) and tried to steer me in another direction did things get dicey.
In the big picture, I know now what I've known since what seems like forever; I'm gay.

Hi, my fraternal brother,

Welcome to MS. Here you will receive compassion, understanding & love, from your brothers fraternal) & friends(in pain).

We all have been there. We have been into the depths of our soul & hell too.

We will hear your cries. We will help in your fears & we will share in your tears.

Looks like you have been having a roller coaster ride with your emotions. Haven't we all.

My fraternal brother, it has taken me many years to find my true sexuality gay.

From one gay fraternal brother to another i wish you happiness.

Heal well my brother, elephant, heal well.

Pete..Irishmoose.