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#342584 - 10/20/10 09:34 PM Oprah rejects
usmc97 Offline
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Registered: 08/02/05
Posts: 437
Loc: Colorado
Just a post for all of us rejects that didn't even rate somekind of reply. I didn't expect an invite because of my circumstances but I made an effort to be open to what might happen. I don't believe anyone can speak to what my life and experience consist of and foresee just another generalized "idea" of what makes up a "survivor".

I hope the guys who got to go don't try speaking for all, it really makes my life harder having to deal with people and what they believe someone "like me" is suppose to be.

It would've been just common courtesy to at the very least give a response even if it were a mass email.

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#342683 - 10/21/10 08:42 PM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: usmc97]
Tinman Offline


Registered: 05/30/08
Posts: 359
Loc: Lake Forest, CA
Removing post as issue mentioned has been resoloved


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#342691 - 10/21/10 10:45 PM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: Tinman]
Tinman Offline


Registered: 05/30/08
Posts: 359
Loc: Lake Forest, CA
USMC,

I am sad because of what I see in your post. You feel like you were given no consideration. To hell with them. We are here for you!

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#342703 - 10/22/10 12:42 AM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: Tinman]
cpt. confusion Offline
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Registered: 01/26/04
Posts: 159
Loc: midwest
USMC- you weren't the only "reject" from this show- I actually live in the Chicago area (so no travel expenses), and I wrote in after they had posted a calling on the Oprah website. I heard nothing back. I waited about a week, and wrote in again when I noticed the posting was still there, and still no response. through a friend, I actually got a number to one of the producers, and called, left a message, and still got no response. Finally this past monday (2 days before taping), I called and left another message and received a return call letting me know they were completely booked. If I wasnt so persistent, I wouldnt have heard anything either.

I agree they should have given some kind of notice, some kind of reply to acknowledge... but I have also realized that they are television people, not counselors. Their top priority is putting on this TV Show- and not worrying about the effect they might have in leaving us waiting and hoping for a call...

I thought about it more, and they werent organizing a retreat weekend, or promising counseling sessions, and probably most important for me to realize is that it was not a contest. I'm sure they had an agenda to abide by, and probably some type of profile or commonality they were looking for in choosing the participants.

Perhaps I didnt fit the mold- good. I don't fit any mold, nor do I want to.

At the end of the day, I am still glad that this show was filmed, and I look forward to what I hope will be a positive effect on so many of the survivors that are still out there silent in their struggles.

-cpt.

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#342727 - 10/22/10 09:48 AM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: cpt. confusion]
Obi Offline
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Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1342
Loc: kansas
yeah... i'm a reject too...

no hi, bye, kiss our butt, nothing....

would've been nice to send out a "bulk email" to let those that weren't selected know that they had the slots filled..



Edited by Obi (10/22/10 09:48 AM)
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#342731 - 10/22/10 10:06 AM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: Obi]
blaidd Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/01/00
Posts: 240
Loc: Australia
You guys are so brave for even considering the thought of wanting to tell your stories in public. I just couldn't do it. No way.

Sounds a tad remiss, not to provide the courtesy of a reply as a way of explanation. Maybe they were so inundated with applications they did not have the resources to reply given time restraints and personnel etc. Who knows. I understand that it was disappointing for those who missed out and did not get a reply of any de>

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#342733 - 10/22/10 10:13 AM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: Obi]
Wardpoet Offline


Registered: 10/22/10
Posts: 43
Loc: Maryland
I was not a reject. I don't see how I deserved to go. My contact with them was a reply to a show last march. I did not think I would be selected couln't deal with rejection so refused to have any hope.It will be a very good show I did not speak there were many who seemed to have the need to do so and everyone could not be able to due to time constraints. I wondered if I would even get a reject note. There were no correct responses our stories are different with some similarities. I am humbled that they would even do this show. Out of tens of thousands who applied 200 were selected I cannot give any info untill the 28th.



Edited by Wardpoet (10/22/10 10:19 AM)
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#342742 - 10/22/10 10:46 AM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: Wardpoet]
Avery46 Offline


Registered: 09/23/10
Posts: 1243
Loc: USA
I hear the disappointment in you all. I thought about this myself and then last night I thought well hey....why not just get together as a group for the weekend.

I did NOT apply myself but, I can understand disappointments.

Donnie

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#342909 - 10/23/10 09:56 PM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: Avery46]
usmc97 Offline
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Registered: 08/02/05
Posts: 437
Loc: Colorado
I did not necessarily want to share my "experience", I was pretty sure I would not be able to even do the traveling since I would've needed a friend to go along. I might not have been able to handle just sitting in the audience.... the thing is that I asked for consideration by giving the basics of what I live with and what I've been through.

I even gave my docs info knowing that what I told them might be too much and that they would need to verify what I said.

No. I just about guarantee that there was not a representation of what has happened in my life or what I deal with on a daily basis.

Virtually every resource for males with abuse backgrounds, including here at MS, have failed to include someone like me. It becomes a burden to try and teach different when everything is focused on having a person categorized before they even speak.

I cannot include myself to much of what others in the "survivor" community express or of what makes a "survivor". Just that name does not carry any de>
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#342931 - 10/24/10 10:40 AM Re: Oprah rejects [Re: usmc97]
Ever-fixed Mark Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 01/02/10
Posts: 729
Loc: United States
I know that feeling silenced, rejected and ignored can be very strong triggers for survivors. That's why I'm curious why anyone who is sensitive to any of those things would have even considered engaging on this Oprah show.

I believe that I decide how much things like this can hurt me. I wonder why my brothers have given this situation so much power over them.

-efm

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Everybody's been through their own hell
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Getting over it, that takes the work

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