Please ignore my comment. I was telling you where I am coming from. NOT everyone has the same reality.
Not everyone has the same experience and viewpoint, but there is just one reality.
I can't ignore your comment because at one time or another I've made it myself. Just because today its your reality doesn't mean that tomorrow it can't be different.
My reality seems to be far from the truth as you put it. I am happy you shared and I am thank you posted.
I am not so ok with being in public and being touched so it is my deal. I think I am like a lot of society who has issues with not being perfect. I have been in public and ALL of the men with the muscled bodies are being groped and touched. Just stating my reality.
My gayness is still very attached to being sexual and being perfect.
Our feelings are what they are. At the same time, we can look at them and compare them to others and to the real world and see that our feelings and our perceptions don't match those of others. And that's okay. But doesn't that make you curious? Doesn't it bug you that you're living under a set of beliefs that don't seem to restrict everyone else?
For me being gay isn't about the sex, it's about the attraction - emotional, spiritual, and, yes, physical to another man. As a kid I was gay before I had sex and if I take the pledge and never have sex again I'll still be gay long after.
I don't think any of that stops you tackling the questions I posed. I may be mistaken, but it seems like you are locked into your reality and resisting anything that might challenge it, or ask you to consider why it is even so.
- Why do you think your feeling/perception is so far from the reality the rest of us see?
- How do you think holding on to that feeling/perception helps or hurts you?
- What does "perfect" mean to you in this context?
- How does not feeling "perfect" affect what's possible for you and why?
- What can those who are "perfect" have and what to those who are "not perfect" have in it's place?
I'm kicking myself in the butt right now over a set of feelings and beliefs that I have which don't reflect reality, don't restrict everyone else, and no one else should have to put up with. That's why I'm sensitized to this conversation and these kinds of belief systems we acquire and seem so committed to enforcing on ourselves.