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#343431 - 10/28/10 04:50 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: farmboy]
michael Joseph Offline
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Registered: 03/11/01
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Loc: Virginia
dont worry Jay beat me in arm wrestling

so I am not sure I can hurt many with a punch

LOL I will try though if they try to hurt me

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#343625 - 10/30/10 04:28 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: farmboy]
michael Joseph Offline
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D____ D___ is a fucking asshole and I hope he rots in hell.

I thank all who read what happened to me, and your support mean the world to me. I love each and every one of you.

MJ



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#343678 - 10/30/10 03:21 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: michael Joseph]
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Registered: 06/16/10
Posts: 486
Loc: NJ
we love you too, bro!

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#344053 - 11/03/10 10:02 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: farmboy]
michael Joseph Offline
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How did I get hurt in March? I let someone I did not know talk me into being alone with him. I have a hard time saying no or getting out of situations. This has happened many times, over and over again. The thing that has changed is I am done being hurt. I am fighting back. I am learning no to minimize my past abuse in order to show feelings more. I was able to shout and scream at the weekend at shane’s.
I am getting stronger, but there are people interested in being my friend. I will not allow myself to be alone with people I do not know well in person or that I do not trust. In the past I would get hurt now I say no. I feel bad I was locked up for 10 months and raped but I will not find myself in situations where I can be hurt. If someone wants to meet me, they will do so in public.
I feel like curling up in a ball and crying sometimes. I am not sure how I made it thru all the abuse, But I did and I am glad.

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#344307 - 11/06/10 09:18 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: farmboy]
derrick Offline
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Registered: 05/30/10
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Loc: North Carolina
(((((( hugs )))))))

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#345159 - 11/14/10 11:41 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: farmboy]
michael Joseph Offline
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too late I got Jay on the mat

LOL just kidding

I will only srike when attacked

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#345190 - 11/14/10 08:12 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: farmboy]
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Registered: 10/16/00
Posts: 11
Loc: Pennsylvania, USA
MJ -- I met other survivors through a group type setting -- just for male survivors mind you. I allowed myself to spit it out you might say. Told the truth about the sexual abuse. I trusted the man who facilitated the weekly meetings and what do you think happened next. I trusted the group and him with my secrets and he started to hound me to be sexual with him. I was devastated, all i wanted was to just be free to be me. I began to feel as if I had no control over this situation and left the group to save myself but that left me alone to deal with everything by myself.
The so called good guy - friend - facilitator of the sexual abuse group was now directly sexually harrassing me. I moved from where I used to live but he found me later, found my new phone number even though it was intentionally not placed in my name. The So called friend has turned out to be a predator. I went into a severe depression that was so strong it was comparible to the suicidal feelings I had when I was being raped in my teenage years. I spoke to my wife about what he was trying to do and she said just deal with him he's a paying customer. I was self employed at the time with my own business. Even my wife wanted me to place myself in danger just for money. Wife and I are no longer together and I am working on getting a devorce.

I am here for you MJ !
Hang in there,
Shelatowie


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#345251 - 11/15/10 08:07 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: Shelatowie]
michael Joseph Offline
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Loc: Virginia
well I am divorced my wife was the devil herself

and yeah u told me u were severated

HUGS

MJ

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#346112 - 11/23/10 10:34 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: michael Joseph]
michael Joseph Offline
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what would u say to me know what I shared in this thread?

It would help to hear from my friends

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#346237 - 11/25/10 10:40 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: michael Joseph]
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Registered: 02/17/08
Posts: 1247
Loc: Oklahoma
MJ,

I would say that you have had an issue that is common among survivors. That feeling of being pressured into situations, sexual or not, where we want to argue or fight our way out. Instead we have the shadow of abuse or assaults that creep back into our thought process. That affects our ability to say no or to escape things that others easily walk away from.

I would say you are a man endured much in his life and is still standing. I admire you so much for that. A man of strength and courage. You are an activist who is not afraid to stand up for his beliefs and support others as well.

Now you are saying enough is enough and doing what you need to in order to keep yourself safe. Building stronger boundaries and saying no from the beginning by saying what is acceptable and what is not. It is wise to begin with minimal trust and let it build from there if the person shows themselvdes worthy of of your trust and friendship. These are not walls of seperation but ones of safety.

I would say to you that this is huge growth on your part and that you have my full support. You deserve this new phase of your life. Seems you are headed for a new normal.


Daryl

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