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#342370 - 10/18/10 08:58 AM My Timeline of adult abuse
michael Joseph Offline
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Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
age 22 raped by stranger oral sex happened and when he was to enter me I started to cry don't hurt me and he let me go.

age 31 Ed in my men's group offered to give me massage, and afterward he hugged me. I asked for another hug and then he turned things sexual asking me to thrust into him while he did the same.

age 38 a friend wanted to get sexual with me not much happened but it was disturbing.

age 39 my mother was in my house came down the steps with out a shirt on and asked me to rub something under her breasts, and I did. Feel crazy I do whatever others want.

age 41 pete L. who I met on here was acting like a friend for 7 months and then in person (we lived close) he was nice until I asked for a hug and then he put his hands in my pants, he would meet with me 1-2 times a months and touch me. He left MS when we met in person. Six months after we met in person he moved away.

age 43 I became friends with David D. whom I ended up moving in with. He locked me up in the house when we were home, and I would go with him places. He would go to my therapy sessions he would claim to save our relationship. We were not in relationship I was his slave. He had sex with me unwanted sex three times. I consider it raped.

At 47 I went to work on a retreat and someone performed oral sex on me which was not wanted. I went down to confront him and it happened again.

Age 48, today I am driving into DC to take a defense class. I hope it helps.

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#342433 - 10/18/10 08:21 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: michael Joseph]
blaidd Offline
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I stand by you as a MS witness to what you have been through Michael. Sorry that you have been through so much.

Hope the defence class goes well. I look forward to hearing how that went. smile

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#342437 - 10/18/10 08:44 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: blaidd]
Narasuke Offline


Registered: 05/01/09
Posts: 17
Loc: Columbus, OH
I hope that the self defense class goes well, too. I used to take classes and felt empowered them...so I hope that you get the same experience.

Best Wishes,

Michael

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#342503 - 10/19/10 02:38 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: Narasuke]
michael Joseph Offline
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Kia yah -- yeah it was helpful
you better not mess with me now

LOL

thanks men I need some nuns to practice on though

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#342609 - 10/21/10 09:12 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: michael Joseph]
michael Joseph Offline
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the post seems like just the facts ma'am
but really there is a lot of pain hurt anger frustration and many
more feelings not sure what all, but I also have many friends here who help thanks.

MJ

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#342624 - 10/21/10 11:44 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: michael Joseph]
pufferfish Offline
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Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6843
Loc: USA
MJ

You certainly have gone through a lot!

Yet here you are, helping other guys. That's good.

It's therapeutic to lay it all out. Get it out in the open and sun dry it. Then it can heal.

Allen

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#342809 - 10/22/10 08:00 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: pufferfish]
starman77 Offline
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Registered: 04/03/09
Posts: 36
Loc: Illinois
Michael,

Man I am sorry that those thing happened to you as an adult.

When I was 42 I met a guy in my church. I'll call him M. He was a christain and a T to boot.
I met with him every Thurs morning for breakfast. After about 6 yrs we knew each others story well. We met with another man once a month for dinner. We met at each other homes. After all those years we met, he can early one night.
One weekend our church had a men's workshop. He spoke about friendship. He asked me to the stage. He praised me as a good friend. He made other comments about me to the group.
M. and My friendship felt solid to me.
A month or so after the workshop, he propsitioned me for sex.
We was the first man I trused. It hurt a lot.
I asked him to leave and never heard from him again.
Thanks for giving me the courage mto post this.
I kno9w how much you hurt MJ.

Jerry



Edited by starman77 (10/22/10 08:05 PM)

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#342908 - 10/23/10 09:40 PM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: starman77]
Happy Birthday Derdlecar Offline
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Registered: 11/08/05
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Loc: Ogden Utah, USA
Michael,

Safe hugs.

( ( ( ( ( (((((Michael))))) ) ) ) ) )

Darrel

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#343019 - 10/25/10 05:14 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: Derdlecar]
michael Joseph Offline
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Registered: 03/11/01
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Loc: Virginia
thanks

this weekend I was able to talk and cry and hit pillows with a racquet

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#343257 - 10/27/10 10:38 AM Re: My Timeline of adult abuse [Re: michael Joseph]
farmboy Offline


Registered: 08/07/08
Posts: 2
Loc: CA, USA
I'm here for you, brutha! My therapist was very supportive when I decided to go back to lifting without being paralysed by dealing with other guys' testosterone. Just don't start punching everybody wink


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