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#341443 - 10/05/10 12:39 AM Sex aversion
peterparker Offline


Registered: 05/26/10
Posts: 11
Well, I just want to speak out this fast because I'm having some good amount of anxiety now. I'm having some trouble figuring out whether my relationship with my mother was covert incest or actual sexual abuse. I guess I'll write my presentation soon. But I'd like to know if there's some people out there with this aversion to sex I feel sometimes. I just wish it didn't exist. I don't know if they call it sexual anorexia, aversion to sex or sexphobia but even when I'm able to get aroused, I feel a life without sex would be better, lesser problems, anguish, anxiety, and all the stuff.
Thank you all



Edited by peterparker (10/05/10 02:45 PM)

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#341460 - 10/05/10 09:25 AM Re: Hello there [Re: peterparker]
Dogs&Gods Offline
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Registered: 03/22/10
Posts: 49
Loc: The Mighty Mitten
I was alos abused by my mother but not sure how much of it was sexual. Emotionally she made me her husband and friend and took away my childhood.

Today I am hapily married I love my wife have good sex with my wife, but still suffer from SSA. I think it is just me wanting to be young again. I have not acted out ut figure if I do the guilt would keep me from enjoying sex with my wife.

While I enjoy sex with my wife sometimes I do fantacise about being with some else or a 3rd person in bed with us!

Hope my honesty helps...

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Remember Dog is God spelled backwards: The dogs in my life were the first ones to hear my pain and lick away my tears.

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#341482 - 10/05/10 02:46 PM Re: Hello there [Re: Dogs&Gods]
peterparker Offline


Registered: 05/26/10
Posts: 11
I'm not sure what do you mean with "acting out" here. Is it having actual sex with someone else?

And sure your honesty helps.. I'm new and a little lost around here


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#341483 - 10/05/10 03:18 PM Re: Hello there [Re: peterparker]
learning2remember Offline
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Registered: 10/21/03
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I know what it is like to wonder whether what Mom did to me was emotional incest or something more physical. I also know what it is like to wish sex just didn't exist. I am convinced these two feelings are related. You are not alone.

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"This is not my shame, this is their shame." Mona Eltahawy

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#341939 - 10/12/10 10:46 AM Re: Hello there [Re: learning2remember]
Dogs&Gods Offline
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Registered: 03/22/10
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Loc: The Mighty Mitten
Acting out to me means ingaging in sexual wants that I have, with another person. Now factacy is fair game..

My wife has told me straight out that if I had an affair she would nothave been willing to stay with me threw this.

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