Marley,

The folks who oversee MS were insightful enough to see the need for this forum. It was a true affirmation for many of us here.

We are glad you are here posting. Welcome to the site and to this forum in particular.


Daryl

My psychiatrist suggested that I try to find an outlet for this type of issue so I did some searching but wasn't able to find anything like this, until now. I was surprised when I saw it here. I don't know that I'll be able to post or talk about these things, but just knowing it's here is good enough for now.

Thanks again.

Marley

Marley,

The disappointing, jolting and revolting thing is that there is very little out there for men who have been assualted as adults. Somehow this has got to be changed not only for us but for those who will be hurt in the future. Society has a duty, whether recognized or not, to fulfill the responsibility to all ASA men. I hope that day at least dawns in the not too distant future.

I am glad that you saw this forum for that is the hope it was created on here. That men would see that there is a place for them.

Don't worry about what you do or do not do here. If you simply wish to read here that is more than fine. I hope you will become comfortable enough to throw out your views at some point. I am just glad you are here with us.

It is nice to know the forum exists. It is a very powerful acknowledgment.


Take care,

Daryl

Marley,

No matter the circumstances of an assault it is never the fault of the victim.

What goes on in prisons is so ignored and the desire exsits to say nothing happens there or it is not a real problem. It is the responsibility of society to stop this abuse and not look the other way. My heart goes out to those men you mentioned.

I have battled the fears you spoke of here. But now I fear staying silent any longer.

Thank you for sharing this with us. No judgment here - just acceptance.


Daryl

Marley,

The time that I worked in a halfway house was a truly rewarding time. I still look back on those guys and wonder where they are now and what kind of lives they have now. I bonded with several and I learned a lot from them. I hated the folks I worked for - it was a money pit to them and the guys were just property. I often argued in meetings with the others there and was an odd duck to them. I was glad since I did not like them or how they treated some of the guys. I saw corruption in there that turned my stomach. I could not prove anything but knew it was happening. After I quit I did report them to the state.

I know it is hard to apply what I said to yourself. We all struggle with that. We can give to another but not so easily to ourselves. But if we wait for the world to say what we need we may never get it. So we have to do it for ourselves. Being incarcerated has nothing to do with whether someone is a victim or not. It is a circumstance someone has been placed in that makes it far easier for an assualt to take place.

Even if someone is guilty of a crime does not mean that they deserve to be raped. And I agree that there are men and women serving sentences that do not deserve to be there. Our justice system is far, far from perfection. I do not have the greates to faith in it myself. And I would say it is more than a handful who should not be in prison. And many more who should be who got away with their crimes.

Take it easy on yourself.


Daryl