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#340845 - 09/26/10 10:21 AM WoR Relating to ASA
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I am seeking feedback from any ASA guys have attended a WoR. I realize that much of the program would relate to anyone, whether CSA or ASA.

I was just curious if ASA was addressed during the weekend activities and groups.


Thanks,

Daryl

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#340851 - 09/26/10 10:43 AM Re: WoR Relating to ASA [Re: prisonerID]
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I attended a WoR weekend and found it a wonderful expereince but as a ASA I felt very alone. I was excepted into a group, it was entirely in my own head but I could not get into the "inner child" thing. Just didn't work for me. It was a large part of the focus of the weekend. At the end I did suggest that the issues of ASA's should be directly approached. I hope my concern was heard.

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#340853 - 09/26/10 10:53 AM Re: WoR Relating to ASA [Re: earlybird]
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Thanks for your feedback concerning this. I must admit I have wrestled with it since first considering attending a WoR. I never doubted I would be embraced by the other men there. One night in chat Dr. Fadken (I think that is right) showed up talking of the upcoming WoR at the time. I asked if a ASA guy would benefit and he said I would. But I think he thought I was referring to the general healing of the weekend.

I have been curious as to whether ASA would be addressed at least in name since it is not in literature much except as a footnote. I once did a post on my frustrations in past therapy, both individual and group, over my being told to substitute "male" for "female". It is a bit distracting to the whole healing process and the application of information. It made it harder to own it for myself.

I am glad you spoke up concerning your own thoughts concerning this. Like I said in the post I mentioned above - one likes to hear his own name.


Daryl



Edited by prisonerID (09/26/10 10:58 AM)
Edit Reason: grammar
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#341298 - 10/02/10 01:59 AM Re: WoR Relating to ASA [Re: prisonerID]
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Not sure if all weekends would give you the same results, if there were more asa men in a weekend it could feel different.

As someone who was abused thru most of my life I am both csa and asa.

That is something you could discuss in the interview process and thus it would bring that to the attention of the Ts working that WoR.

mj

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