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#337859 - 08/08/10 12:40 AM LIST OF HEALING MOVIES
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I started a new list of healing movies I have seen. Of course this means they have been healing for me. But I think that a lot of guys would find healing in them. I start with some of the more classic ones. I will add others in a few days.

I have been using Netflix. It is a good source of vids.

I have occasionally found movies which were very healing. Sometimes I watched them a dozen times or so. They were good for me because I would project myself into the movie. That is, the boy in the movie became me. Then as his situation "resolved", my own emotions followed along and also resolved. Often in these healing movies, the problems the boy had were reminiscent of problems I faced. (I was held captive for awhile but never in a gulag).

I need to make a list of these movies. They all were very meaningful to me personally for one reason or another. One I'll mention now is a classic:

I Am David, starring Jim Caviezel, and Ben Tibber

http://www.amazon.com/I-Am-David-Jim-Caviezel/dp/B0007N19X2/

This one is about a boy who spent time in a gulag, a prisoner of war camp, and escaped. He went through various trials and discovered that some people are really kind. He finally after many adventures finds his way out. I don't think this one is at all depressing. It might help you visualize a new meaning of motherhood. That would be good.

Another one is also a classic and you might have seen it already. It is: Empire of the Sun. One of the earlier efforts of Stephen Spielberg. The young Christian Bale is the star of that picture. Here again it involves a boy being in a captivity situation, followed by release and then repatriation.

http://www.amazon.com/Empire-Snap-Case-Christian-Bale/dp/B00003CX9U/

A third one is also a classic: Oliver Twist. Based on the character given to us by Charles Dickens. I have seen several versions of this. One of them I like is this one:

http://www.amazon.com/Oliver-Twist-Barney-Clark/dp/B000C20VU0/

You will find, as I did, that Charles Dickens understood child abuse and wrote about it clearly. Dickens also understood PTSD. Several of his other volumes also are helpful on this subject. Another one is David Copperfield. And of course the classic shown at Christmas time, A Christmas Carol, which portrays Tiny Tim and his difficulties. That one even shows how bitterness as a child can lead to being an old Scrooge (it doesn't have to).

Allen

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Edited by pufferfish (08/08/10 11:57 PM)
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#337929 - 08/09/10 12:10 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: pufferfish]
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My most recent discovery was in finding my abuser in a movie. That might not come as a great surprise to many, but it did to me.

I knew that my grandfather had abused me when I was 4, but I couldn't remember very many details at all.

Then by accident I discovered the film, The Education of Little Tree. This is a non-depressing film that has become a favorite of a lot of people.

The grandfather in the film just happens to remind me of my own grandfather. The setting is so similar to the setting of my grandfather's and grandmother's home that it's amazing. Their way of talking and acting was incredibly similar. The little store in the town resembled a little store in the town where my grandfather took me to "show me off". There he bought some food, and some gum and some lifesavers.

The power of remembrance in this film has to do with helping to remember the person and the setting with a lot of details. The grandfather in the movie was so incredibly similar to my own grandfather that it took my own memories out of the shadows into the sunlight.

It is important to add that in the movie, Little Tree's grandfather did not abuse him, but actually gave generously of himself in helping Little Tree.

The Education of Little Tree probably won't serve the same purpose for very many of you, but that's OK. It's enough for my purposes to show how a movie can help in remembering. Most of you will have to find a different movie. When you do, it would help others if you would post it.

Allen

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#337979 - 08/09/10 08:21 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: pufferfish]
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I must say that since I was triggered into remembering I am nearly unable to reach the state of suspension of disbelief necessary for one to enjoy tv shows and movies. I'm still able to enjoy some sitcoms and certain movies. They are in no particular order;(some of this stuff is really cheesy or juvenile)
1 Hitchhiker's guide movie and the old tv series which I have both of
2 Life of Brian
3 the Lord of the Rings trilogy; but only at certain times when I'm in the right frame of mind.
4 ELf
5 the first three Star Wars which seem to have been stolen leaving me with the last three which are crap.

They are healing because I can reach that place of suspension of disbelief and enjoy them. Heck I usually fall asleep they make me so comfortable.



Edited by kidneythis (08/09/10 08:22 PM)
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#337985 - 08/09/10 09:27 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: kidneythis]
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Allen, I really Like your choices!

Empire of the Sun was one of my favorite movies for the longest time!

I also used to Love Oliver Twist. But, for some reason, the last time I saw it, I only watched half of it, it triggered the hell out of me. I will agree with you though that Charles Dickens Knows PTSD or at least childhood trauma very well in his books.

Oh seeing the trailer I realize that I have seen the movie "I am David" and yes it is a wonderful movie that I enjoyed very much.

Thank you for the suggestions


Logan




Edited by Logan (08/09/10 09:32 PM)
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#338027 - 08/10/10 02:52 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: Logan]
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Here are some more healing movies.

These movies are perfectly harmless and may verge on being classics.

The reason they are/were healing for me is that I was a very, very sad teenager. The public schools sent me to counseling when I was 15. I just absolutely had no gleam in my eye anymore. I remember trying to read a Sadsack cartoon and it brought me to the point of tears. The counselor I went to tried to think of ways for me to get some joy back into my life. She told me to go to the library and get some books with jokes and funny stuff in them and then report back to her.

Well, it’s with that background that I found some vids which made me laugh. The healing part is still the matter of projection. I project myself into the boy in the movie and then it actually has a powerful affect on my inner emotions. So, here are some that I have found:

Where the Wild Things Are. This movie is delightful and is based on the children’s classic book by the same name written by Maurice Sendak. In this one, the boy is 12, the age at which I got terribly abused. So the movie also helps me with a problem I’ve had, “depersonalization disorder”. I experienced captivity and torture and abuse and it left me with that disorder and some others. This means to me that I lost the sense of who I was. So, it helps to watch the boy in this movie as he acts like what I think a 12-y-o boy would act. He has emotions like loneliness, abandonment, rejection, anger, joy, happiness, freedom, anger with parent (mother) . It will help you remember what it feels like to be really small compared to those around you. These were all helpful to me because it allowed me to vicariously relive a moment in which I was frozen. The boy actor was Max Records.

http://www.amazon.com/Where-Wild-Things-Are-Records/dp/B001HN699A/

How To Eat Fried Worms. I love this one. It was well done. I even enjoyed the bonus disc where they explain how the movie was made (they didn’t really use live worms). It was also based on a book. They took special care that the children involved in the film were not hurt in any way by the making of the film. It is a glorious spoof in which the new boy to the school is maneuvered into promising to eat fried worms by Friday in order to be accepted by the gang of his peers. The peers represented several types of boys, the bully, the clown, the geek, the adventurer, etc. Thus the film actually facilitates this matter of projection of the observer into the film. But it is really funny. Or better, it is hilarious. And everything turns out alright. This is what is needed to accomplish the healing for this film. It says to me on the emotional level that things can turn out right. It re-enacts the theme of how to react to a gang and a bully in a new school. The leading actor was Luke Benward.

http://www.amazon.com/How-Fried-Worms-Line-Platinum/dp/B000J10FLY/

The next one I recommend also gave me some good laughs and allowed me to reactivite my possibility thinking. I had lost the ability to dream and to wish. In this movie everything seems to be going wrong but then everything turns out just right. And I thought it was very funny. The boy actor was Brian Bonsall. The movie is: Blank Check.

http://www.amazon.com/Blank-Check-Brian-Bonsall/dp/B000089771/

This story also involves some mild bullying but it turns out right. The boy is the youngest of 3 boys and he gets put down by everybody else including parents. But yet he has the ability to dream and to be creative. The storyline involves some marvelous turns-of-events in which unfortunate events, like the boy’s bicycle being run over by a car turns out right. Of course it is all make believe and fantastic. But this is what I need a little of. I had lost my ability to dream and laugh. The boy ends up living in a mansion down the street which has every imaginable toy and game and swimming pool gadget. So I really did project myself right into that situation and it really helped me on an emotional level.


Allen

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#338139 - 08/12/10 01:31 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: pufferfish]
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Well... being a Goonie was a predecessor to my becoming a Marine.

I have a bunch of movies that all tap into one part of me or another, some made before I was born. Some I watch to grieve, some I watch to feel angry, some I watch to try and crack a smile, a lot I watch to remember who I was and who I have been fighting for to return to me.

Healing? For me? maybe not. They just help at times to feel other things aside from pain, some I'd even say give a little comfort.

(Empire of the Sun also one of my favorites, I still kind of hum the song he sings at times)

Weird thing with movies is that I still see myself as younger than the characters.

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#338249 - 08/13/10 12:33 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: usmc97]
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Here are some of my favorites:[size:11pt][/size]

Life as a House-about a man who finally wakes up for his life and decides to build something from the wreckage/legacy of his life-amazingly real emotions about facing our fears, our demons, and our anger..

The Celebration- Major triggers-it faces csa boldly fully and raw-riveting honest and amazing. Some scenes of confrontation with the perp I had to stand twenty feet away from the tv.

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#338978 - 08/25/10 03:10 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Has anyone seen Ordinary People, with Donald Sutherland, Mary tyler-moore, timothy dutton? I found it captured powerfully how painful memories surface, and family denial/coping mechanisms.

Empire of the Sun
I am David

Power of image!



Edited by CheerfulJohn (08/25/10 03:10 PM)
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#339401 - 09/01/10 02:43 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: CheerfulJohn]
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This may seem weird to some!

I find the movie: Diary of a Wimpy Kid to be healing and enjoyable.

http://www.diaryofawimpykidmovie.com/

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ltKqYvFWWoY

This movie reminds me of myself at that age. I hadn't hit my growth spurt either. Those are the kinds of shoes I was wearing when abuse started. But then the abuse caused me to lose sight of who I was. I lost myself. So here comes a movie which is showing me as I might have been: A seventh grader with all the complexities and frustrations of that life. So it brought me back to life so to speak.

I found the movie to be full of laughs.

I recommend it.

Allen

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Edited by pufferfish (09/01/10 05:07 PM)
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#339441 - 09/02/10 06:15 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: pufferfish]
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One of my favorite movies, also deals with Child Abuse, but really isn't a "Healthy" alternative. "Sleepers." But then I have a twisted mind, so I guess, it's my wish fulfillment, since I can't go around shooting people. While the imagry is desturbing, and sometimes can really trigger me. I do enjoy watching the scene where the main antagonist get's shot in the restaraunt near the beginning of the film.

The other good one that I find to be extremely healing was a made-for-tv movie called "I know my first name is Steven." It's about a boy who is kidnapped, and kept hostage for years, but finally escapes his kidnapper and get's reunited with his family. I find it to be healing, and good. It was based I believe on a true story, and is very very tastefully done. (i.e. even though you know what's going on, I don't get triggered, if at all.)

Alright, that's my two cents. Have a good Day, Gentlemen.

Lord ShiningStarr

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#339463 - 09/02/10 10:12 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: LordShiningStarr]
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Originally Posted By: LordShiningStarr
One of my favorite movies, also deals with Child Abuse, but really isn't a "Healthy" alternative. "Sleepers." But then I have a twisted mind, so I guess, it's my wish fulfillment, since I can't go around shooting people. While the imagry is desturbing, and sometimes can really trigger me. I do enjoy watching the scene where the main antagonist get's shot in the restaraunt near the beginning of the film.

The other good one that I find to be extremely healing was a made-for-tv movie called "I know my first name is Steven." It's about a boy who is kidnapped, and kept hostage for years, but finally escapes his kidnapper and get's reunited with his family. I find it to be healing, and good. It was based I believe on a true story, and is very very tastefully done. (i.e. even though you know what's going on, I don't get triggered, if at all.)

Alright, that's my two cents. Have a good Day, Gentlemen.

Lord ShiningStarr


Thanks man, "Sleepers" was the first trigger thing that I knew something is telling me, but didn't know what. I was frozen and felt born again with revenge scene!
Downloading right now "I know my first name is Steven"


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#339489 - 09/02/10 02:25 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: cureav]
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Yes,

Thanks LordShiningStar and cureav

Those films also helped me:

Sleepers

I Know My First Name Is Stephen

I found another 2 films which deal with kidnapping and thus helped me:

Ransom with Mel Gibson and Brawley Nolte

I'm Not Scared.

I'm Not Scared is an Italian movie about kidnapping. The outcome of the movie is uplifting. It always brings out a lot of emotion in me. Both of these movies show violence. They helped me to "visualize" myself in an ultrabad situation and to come out alive.

In Ransom, they show the boy tied to a bed and in great distress. Seeing that still brings out a lot of emotion in me. I believe that my crying as I see that is relief of my emotional burden and therefore healing.

Allen

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Edited by pufferfish (09/02/10 02:35 PM)

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#339492 - 09/02/10 03:04 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: pufferfish]
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Stand By Me based on the Steven King book The body.

Kiefer sutherland played the perfect perp. type.

Through the movie I longed for the the tight group that the 4 boys had as a friendship. Well accept for the leach scene. HA HA

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#348243 - 12/15/10 09:51 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: Dogs&Gods]
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I found another one.

A Painted House, based on a novel by Grisham.

These movies help me to see myself. My loss of self as a boy is revisualized as I watch this. They bring back the lost "me". I think what I have had is depersonalization disorder, although it's a bit different than described in the official books.

Here in this movie, a boy is the central character. He is almost the same age as I was and he was living in times almost identical to those of my boyhood. All the cars, and the clothing and everything is like it was. The setting is even on a southern farm, like that of my grandparents. In fact we had a 53 buick the same color as the one in the movie.

The boy actor (Logan Lerman) did a good job as Luke. His>

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#350020 - 01/07/11 10:29 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: cureav]
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Sleepers is my trigger as well. I had watched it with my friend while I was in high school. I stayed numb for a while after movie had finished.
I loved shawsank redemption. There will be always hope altough it seems not.


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#350088 - 01/07/11 10:09 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: brokenleg]
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Life As A House
The Celebration (Danish)
Mystic River

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#352027 - 01/26/11 01:24 PM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: Mountainous Buck]
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I saw "Tangled" 3 times so far with my daughter, and I cried all 3 times.

In it I picked out a teenager being hidden from the world by a "mom" (really a witch) for her "good". She's being hidden since her hair has life giving powers, and the witch is hundreds of years old now.

The scene that caught me first: she's dreamed her whole life of freedom, and when she almost gets what she's sought, her rescuer asks, "what do you think of it?"

"I'm..... terrified"

"Why?"

"Because I've been thinking about this my whole life.......what if it's not what I expected?"

"Well, that's the good part about dreams.......you can always make new ones."

My 6 year old daughter has given me the LOUD look each time which says "why are you crying?" It's adorable, and it makes me cry more.

Never thought I'd post that.

Alfred


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#352515 - 02/01/11 12:44 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: fhorns]
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It may be a holiday movie, but the Polar Express is a must for me around the holidays. It brings such a warming reminder of the wonderment and sense of adventure that a child should be free to feel... warms me up every time.

Radio Flyer - When this came out I was very close in age to the characters, and wished with all my might that I too could build a flying wagon to escape everything bad in my life... this one can be tough to watch, but i think its a great survivor flick.

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#352530 - 02/01/11 10:43 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: pufferfish]
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Indeed, this is a great list of movies to check out.

I suppose I may be a bit out of step with the throng, but the film that speaks to my inner self is Hitchcock's "Psycho."

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#352782 - 02/04/11 10:38 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: WriterKeith]
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Hello all,
I got a major trigger receintly from a Daytime Soap Opera. On the daytime soap General Hospital, one of the male characters confessed to his mom, Carly and her best friend Jason, that he had been raped in Prison. I've been watching the show ever since. I want to watch as Michael goes threw the healing process, only because the scene caught me close to home. Serious trigger. My roommate spent a very sleepless night that night.

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#352861 - 02/05/11 10:30 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: LordShiningStarr]
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LSS,

I am aware of the characters since my Mom watches that show. I wonder how far they will take this or just drop it along the way. Soaps tend to start groundbreaking - or headlining - storylines and then let them wash away into obscurity. The gay male couple on another soap was popular story and then they just ended it and let the actors go. Kind of like looking for shiny toys all the time.

I hope they do this justice but have my doubts.

Thanks for the heads up. I will see if I can catch someting online about it.


Daryl

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#352864 - 02/05/11 11:29 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: prisonerID]
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Originally Posted By: Keith
I suppose I may be a bit out of step with the throng, but the film that speaks to my inner self is Hitchcock's "Psycho."


Ok, dude, now you're scaring me!! LOL

K

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#352919 - 02/06/11 01:17 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: sono]
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My latest post on a movie giving me very strong flashback/body memory reactions.

The movie: Tron Legacy 3D

http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=352918#Post352918

Allen


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#352928 - 02/06/11 11:18 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: LordShiningStarr]
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There are some videos posted on youtube concerning the General Hospital storyline. I watched a bit of it and may look back another day.

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#354010 - 02/18/11 05:12 AM Re: LIST OF HEALING MOVIES [Re: prisonerID]
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Great thread so far. My T really likes movies and is often making movie references. He's recommended a couple of movies that have been very good and very healing.

Gran Torino starring Clint Eastwood is about a Korean war vet living next to a Hmong family. He's a total racist and clearly suffering from PTSD but he ends up opening up to the kind gestures of the neighbors he despises. And he ends up causing and then heroically resolving a major conflict. WARNING: the movie deals with sexual assault - it is off screen but very upsetting. This movie was uplifting in spite of the tragic events it depicts because it is a story of a mean old traumatized man giving everything to help others who reached out to him.

On a lighter note, there is Babies also recommended by T. Highly recommended - just four babies I'm different parts of the world (San Francisco, Tokyo, Mongolia, and Namibia) from birth until they can walk. No plot no dialogue but totally joyful.

Paris, Texas An 80's classic starring Harry Dean Station and Natasha Kinsky is another one I have found healing. It's about a man coming to terms with the wreckage in his life caused ultimately by his desire to completely possess the object of his fierce and desperate love. Amazing movie - see it on as large a screen as possible.

George

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