My perp has been dead for 6-1/2 years. Yet, I still wonder what I would do if he was alive.
Partly because I want to process those feelings. Partly because I deal with abused kids & I want to be able to help them when they are faced with that situation. How could I if I dont face it myself.
I think that, what I would do, would depend on where I am in my Healing. 5 years ago, I would have killed him. That, as scary as it is, is the simple truth. 2 years ago, I may have only hurt him, or perhaps thrown a bucket of shit on him.
Today...its harder to answer. I think I wouldn't be as close to my family as I am.
I am so impressed by the strength of those here, that SEE their perps. To live near them & be able to "carry on" with life. The more I write this, the more I feel that I wouldnt be so strong. It's probly a good thing for me he's dead.
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. ~Winston Churchill
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. ~Maya Angelou
Those who understand only what can be explained understand very little. ~Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach