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#33554 - 06/06/02 04:44 AM TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
Muldoon Offline
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Registered: 05/30/02
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Loc: St Paul MN
Gords You sure hit on the hot topic of the month. The children.. Yor got lots of different ideals on what is good and bad. The #1 thing I got out of all this is that the children are important to all of us.
I feel we must teach them to never hide in the silence, as we have in the past.
Together we can bring this message to all children.
I ask for your ideas and help to move forward with this project.Thanks Muldoon

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#33555 - 06/06/02 09:15 AM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
gords Offline
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Registered: 05/24/02
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Loc: Ontario Canada
You are right Muldoon we do have to keep the children safe. I do not want anyone else to go through what I have gone through. Especially my kids. It is not an easy decision whether or not to tell them. My 14 year old, just finishing her first year in high school is trying desperately to spread her wings. She thinks I am being overprotective but trying to explain that it is a nasty world out there and she doesn't know that because she hasn't really experienced any of the nastiness. (I hope that she never does.)
We do have to get the word out that this SA is not acceptable. Silence is NOT golden. Children should been seen AND heard. They are our future.


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#33556 - 06/06/02 01:04 PM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
Lloydy Offline
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Muldoon
your idea stopped me dead, it's something I have thought about for a long time. If reformed prisoners and drug addicts can tour schools spreading the word why can't we ?
It would be hard to get it right thats for sure, just imagine the effect on a child in a group of their friends who is being abused when someone starts talking about it, the different reactions are just about too complex to deal with.
I help at a charity that provides therapy for SA victims and I give my wife leaflets that she takes to the college where she works, and the sad fact is that a steady stream of leaflets are taken. There's never a chance a charity like ours will no longer be needed.
It's a rock and a hard place, but I hope this post continues, I'd like to hear peoples ideas on this.
Lloydy

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#33557 - 06/06/02 03:50 PM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
babs Offline
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Registered: 07/20/01
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Loc: Cub Hill, MD
A Mother's thoughts -

When I look at my own teenage years and try to visualize what things are like for my 13 YO daughter, the amount of change is spectacular.

At 13 I was totally naive and uninformed. Thank God that I did not cross paths with a sexual predator. Unfortunately my husband, Getteddie, was not as lucky.

Our parents generation was so uptight about sex that they ignored even discussing the subject with us. It's sometimes difficult not to pass on our fear with the words of caution that MUST be said.

I've told my child that in the coming years when "SHE HATES ME" as a typical teenager tends to do, she should always remember that that "SHE CAN COME TO ME ABOUT **anything** THAT CONCERNS HER". We may not always be 'best buddies', but there is NOTHING SHE CAN'T TALK TO ME ABOUT.

Maybe we can use the current media attention about 'SA & the Catholic Church' to stir us into political activism toward PROTECTING ALL CHILDREN.

Babs


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#33558 - 06/06/02 04:00 PM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
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Registered: 02/14/01
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Loc: nashville,tn,usa
Muldoon, Lloyd and Gords, all of you are saying ones children should be told, and I DO agree. It is far better for ones own child to heard the news of sa from ones own parent, rather than say at school or from other children they are hanging around with. Not having any children of my own, and ALWAYS knowing what was done to me re older guys than I was, and the Catholic Church "not wanting to discuss that" I was one of the "forgotten." But today children DO GROW UP TOO FAST, and history DOES reflect that one in three or four women will be rapped, and one in six men will be rapped, and people we think will NEVER COME NEAR OUR CHILDREN, tell that one to some of the parents who live in the arch-dipcese of Boston,MA, parents DO have to tell their children what sexual abuse is and if unfortunately one of them experienced it in their younger years. Think of it, it is a hell of a lot better coming from ones parent(s) than coming from somebody official or a teacher. It took this country about thirty (30)years to "accept" female rape, and the process has just started with the public accepting male rape. I now because I have seen college students listen to people who were rapped talk about that fact and how they are trying to get the word out. Maybe in another thirty (30) years the public will know the "whole" story. Bosishere


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#33559 - 06/06/02 04:03 PM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
Lloydy Offline
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Bab's
It's sad that we would have to ride on the back of the catholic fiasco et al to make the problem more recognisable to kids, but it's probably the way to go. The media are being forced to cover this very unglamourous subject in a bit more depth. And tonight we have the start of a three part profile of Scotland Yards Anti Pedophile Squad on British TV, hopefully it will be a bit more than just the glory of smashing doors in and arresting perv's. But ANY publicity is good and each time a new session of arrests / disclosures are made we should not be afraid of jumping on the bandwagon. The woman that runs the charity I help at is worse than an ambulance chaser, \:D , but she's on the local radio regularly spreading the word. If kids hear about it from anywhere, and also hear help is available then it's an improvement on "the good old days"
Lloydy

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#33560 - 06/06/02 06:16 PM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
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Hi Lloydy. I hope the Pedophile Squad coverage uses the broadcast opportunity to lay down the truth to pedos & boylovers. Every pedo and boylover in the UK'll be watching the show. Times have changed. It's not like the Old Days when guys could screw kids and get away with it till they're old & gray. Start screwing kids nowadays and it's a fast trip to the gray hotel. That's a big price to pay for a few minute's fun.


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#33561 - 06/06/02 07:43 PM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
Lloydy Offline
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The programe finished about 45 minutes ago and I'm still shaking and my head feels about to explode. It was about the most powerful tv I have ever seen, and there's two more parts- 90 mins each- to come.
It made me mad, because there's only 15 detectives on the squad, but I suppose we can take some satisfaction- it's the biggest anti pedo' unit in europe !!! Does that tell us something?
But the sheer hard slog these people put into their visibly distressing work is awsome. One scene when they arrested a sick 80+ year old pedo was so powerful, 18 or 80, he was going down. Arrested because a sharp eyed policeman who saw a blurred house name on a single picture taken in the 1960's and eventually traced it. That picture was one of ten's of thousands of items of evidence seized from another,until then unrelated, pedo'. Work like that deserves our thanks.
But the scary bit was the interviews with the pedo's. I've read about them, listened to other tv programes about them, I've fucking met them !!
And I know what they're like, they believe they're right and done nothing wrong, they're very, very clever / devious and believe they are so smart they wont be caught- and if they do, that they will be proven innocent.
Nothing prepared me for watching these guys, they said nothing I haven't heard before. It was just the way they said it, the arrogance. It was chilling to watch.
Come tommorow morning the British rivers will be full of computers, the ease with which they can be made to give up their secrets is frightening, I would never buy a used computer from a stranger.
Unfortunately with an estimated 6 million child porn images doing the rounds they can't catch them all, most are caught by following through from one person to another. Email a pedo' once and your address is on his drive.
Excellent programme, look out for it on any BBC satelite channel. But be prepared for a ride.
Lloydy

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#33562 - 06/06/02 10:11 PM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
Just Call me J Offline
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Registered: 07/14/01
Posts: 204
Loc: Inland Empire, California
I work in a group home for abused children, and tomorrow, I'll be attending a training called "Preventing Sexual Acting Out." I've done this one before. We're going to watch a CNN report from a few years ago, that interviews some of those NAMBLA pervs, a "non-practicing" pedophile, and a creep in prison doing a "treatment" program.

I agree, Lloydy, the arrogance of the pedos, as they talk about the "love" they have and how much the children "want" the attention... it's sickening.

Hearing someone like that talk of "love for a child" as a "beautiful thing" is frightening. I felt very indigant, that these creeps would have the AUDACITY to use the very same language I use to describe my work, to justify the lifetime of pain they inflict. I work 40+ hours a week trying to undo the damage these sickos have done. I know what love for a child means, and it has nothing to do with sticking body parts where they don't belong.

It's too bad I don't have satellite. Thanks for the heads up! Maybe PBS will get their hands on it, to bring it over.

We're in this together.

Jeremy

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#33563 - 06/07/02 07:31 AM Re: TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO NEVER HIDE IN THE SILENCE
Muldoon Offline
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Registered: 05/30/02
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Loc: St Paul MN
Thanks everyone for your imput on this topic. I,ve been out of town for the last 5 day and working long hours,so I have no time . ThE view of the world sure looks different from 10000 feet up in the air, it did my mind a world of good but also sad thinking about all the victums down there stilll hiding in the silence. I want us to put togeather a worldwide information campaign to end the silence. Know that we have the power here to do it.
Our children & all children must be saved from the hell we have gone through

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