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#334258 - 06/20/10 06:44 PM Odd "fantasy"
KingFred Offline
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Registered: 04/23/10
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I don't know if this belongs here or not. If this is the wrong place, I'm sorry.
Also, !!!TRIGGER WARNING!!! just in case.


Since I was like twelve, I've had one recurring sexual fantasy. This fantasy is...well, I don't know. I've wanted to know what it's like to be a female and have vaginal sex with a guy. But, I'm straight (relatively speaking...only gay towards cute cross-dressers/transgendered male-to-female individuals).
Am I the only one with this fantasy? I've heard of other survivors saying that they've wanted to be the opposite gender because they felt/feel that the abuse would never have happened if they were the opposite gender.

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#334305 - 06/21/10 08:14 AM Re: Odd "fantasy" [Re: KingFred]
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KingFred,

You are not alone on this one...

I had gleanings of a female alter...(to this day...I am not sure if she actually existed ~or~ not...but I named her "Sharina")...

Part of my recovery involved shiatsu (?sp)...deep tissue massage...which ended up being a really trippy catartic healing experience that may have possibly involved some type of integration...idk...(all I do know is it would be next to impossible to explain these experiences in words).

I do know that...I don't spend a lot of effort trying to be hypermasculine...(though I have been down that road)...In the end...I am totally comfortable in just being my androgenous self.

As far as I am concerned...I don't think being the opposite gender would have made a lick of difference as far as my abuse is concerned...

I also remember having strong feminine feelings and wanting to be girl while being abused. I don't believe it was ever anything he said...(just something I felt).


Lola (Kinks) ~~/~~ Goodbye to Jane (Antichrisis)

island



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#334972 - 06/30/10 12:45 PM Re: Odd "fantasy" [Re: 1islandboy]
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KingFred,

Thanks for sharing part of your inner self. I have had fantasies of being a female for as long as I can remember. Not trans, bi, or gay - actually a bio female. Well, gay as in a lesbian. I've been attracted to maybe 5 males in my life. But I've felt an obsession towards very "pretty" women.

I did believe that the abuse would not have happened or somehow I would have been able to deal with it better as a girl. A 3 -5 y/o girl couldn't handle that abuse any better than a boy that age. Dr. Joe Kort, of Ask The Sex Doc forum, said that we all have "sexual templates" which shape our desires and fantasies. Check out his forum for a much better explanation.

SaberCat




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