I agree with Muldoon, and that's a great metaphor for anger you use. I gotta remember that too!
"I feel each of us must come to our own conclusions as to the issue of forgiveness or any level of acceptance that it happened, etc. I am grateful I had some help to sort it out but my therapist was very creful about the process and never pushed or led the issue."
Ross I sure affirm that too; and I'm also fortunate enuf to have a T like that.
This I especially appreciate:
"In addition, I refuse to let those that abused me escape any level of responsibility for their actions under the technicality that "God made everything"."
Good for you. Do they think God "made" what they did to you?!
Stupid arguement for them!
In fact, in my belief, it is just becuz
God made everything that their actions were inexcusable and the measure of their responsibility--and accountability to God--is full!
You were/are made by God in God's own image, sacred & special, as we all are. Thus to abuse you, to abuse anybody, is detestable! Especially for those who should know this and who should know--and do--better!
Ross, I'm glad you have a good T and that you are working your recovery, your process, your way. WTG & take care.