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#332056 - 05/25/10 12:51 PM GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume
Sans Logos Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/31/03
Posts: 5791
Loc: in my own world in pittsburgh,...
GBTQ Discussion Group and Healing Circle
Sundays – 9pm -11pm Eastern
Group Begins Sunday, May 30th


Sunday evenings – part discussion group, part healing circle, but all for us, the GBTQ [Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered, Questioning] members of MaleSurvivor. The purpose of having a GBTQ specific group is to give us a safe environment in which to use our voices to discuss our issues. Often times GBTQ members feel they must censor themselves when speaking of our issues to keep from triggering other members. Having our own group, we empower us to delve into issues that we may shy from discussing elsewhere on the site.

Note that this group is a discussion group as well as a healing circle. The concept is to allow us to openly discuss issues that may pertain to the site or topics that are more general as opposed to a specific member’s recovery. For example, we could discuss MaleSurvivor’s support of its GBTQ members or society’s misconceptions of homosexuals, pedophiles and male survivors. We will also have time where we share the floor with survivors to give support and work on recovery.

In order to promote orderliness and a sense of safety in this environment, some structure and rules have to be in place:
  • What is said in the room stays in the room. Confidentiality is important in dealing with sharing sensitive subject matter. If you wish to share about yourself in any threads, then that is totally up to you. The exception will be information we wish to be shared to enhance the site or site management to make MaleSurvivor safer or more effective as a place of recovery.
  • Check out with the room before leaving for the evening. Dropping out without a graceful exit tends to raise questions with others like “Did I say something wrong?” If you must leave quickly, try to send the facilitator a quick PM and he can pass that on to the rest of the room. Try also to understand someone may be having technical difficulties that necessitate an unplanned exit.
  • No personal attacks or name calling of any kind on other members of the circle. We are all looking for support here, not criticism.
  • Information gained from sources outside of the circle (i.e. chat, PMs, etc.) should not be disclosed inside the circle. Confidentiality should be maintained as a two-way street.

FACILITATORS
Andy aka FormerTexan

SIGNUP:
Either post to this thread or, to maintain privacy, send a PM to FormerTexan.

GROUP INSTRUCTIONS AND ADDITIONAL INFORMATION

Meet in chat at start time and you will be invited into the private Healing Circle room.

IMPORTANT
If your chat name is different than here on the Discussion Board please let us know so you wouldn't be overlooked!

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Below is some information on how the meetings work, please print this out so you can reference it during the meeting.

CHECK IN
When we start the Group, there may be some short announcements before check-in time. Afterwards, when check-in time has arrived, type “CI” if you would like to do a check-in. If you feel inclined to pass, simply type “CI pass.” Check Ins should be a sentence or two about how you are doing

REQUESTING FLOOR TIME
If you have a specific issue to share for the evening which needs some length of time, during check-in time would be the best time to indicate that time is needed for sharing. Simply state that you could “use some time” or “need time.” In a two-hour time frame, the maximum number of people who “need time” is best kept at four or less. If we have eight people needing time, no one would get any productive sharing or feedback for the evening. If there happens to be time after everyone has shared, anyone else who wants to share will be notified via PM that there is X amount of time left if they wish to utilize this.

Always type “done” when you are finished sharing feedback, questions, etc, for your turn. This indicates to the facilitator that the next person can be called upon to share their feedback, question, etc.

FEEDBACK
If you feel compelled to offer feedback for someone, simply type “FB” and when the last person who was sharing types “done” you should be called upon next. Once in a while a person may get skipped amidst the managing of a busy room, and one of us relies on another to keep us up on who requests feedback, so please be patient if you were overlooked, and you will be called upon. If you are the one who is sharing a specific item and desire no feedback, please let the room know by typing “No feedback please.” Often it is a policy of the facilitator to ask if a sharer is alright with questions or feedback.

All of us are not required to share feedback, so if you feel moved to just listen and observe for the evening, this is okay. Periods of silence in the room are also okay, if any.

If you feel especially triggered by content shared during the evening, PM the facilitator and the triggering content will be discussed.

Have a word processor open. When waiting for your turn, write your comment or question in your word processor and copy and paste it in.

CHECK OUT
At the end of the Healing Circle session, which is roughly two hours long, we will have check-outs which are not unlike check-ins. Type “CO” if you have a check-out or “CO pass” if not.

Please make every effort you can to be on time to get the most out of your meeting time. Yes, things happen and come up at the last minute.

_________________________
  1. the past
  2. ReClaiming Now
  3. advocacy


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#334478 - 06/23/10 01:08 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: Sans Logos]
apogee Offline


Registered: 06/23/10
Posts: 2
Hi, is this still open?


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#337424 - 08/01/10 11:17 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: apogee]
nevragan Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/22/08
Posts: 907
Loc: NC
Hey,
The HC runs every Sunday night at 9pm EST, 6pm Pacific time. PM FormerTexan aka Andy for an invite. All you have to do is show up in chat about 15 minutes early to be sure and enjoy.

Andy.


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#339740 - 09/06/10 05:21 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: nevragan]
Loran Offline


Registered: 08/10/10
Posts: 7
Loc: CA. U.S.A.
If still available I would like to join the group. Thank you.


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#339743 - 09/06/10 06:12 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: Loran]
nevragan Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/22/08
Posts: 907
Loc: NC
It's still up and running. Stop by and join us in chat. Looking forward to seeing you there.

Andy.


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#339939 - 09/09/10 10:34 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: nevragan]
Jrrybar Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 09/08/10
Posts: 10
Loc: Illinois
Andy - I would like to visit the group this Sunday (9-12-2010).

Thanks!

-Ray

_________________________
The Round Table, Men's CSA Group, Monday 7:30pm CST, MaleSurvivor Chat

Follow my blog at:
survivorofmen.wordpress.com

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#340052 - 09/11/10 04:12 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: Jrrybar]
1.healing Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 09/10/10
Posts: 261
Loc: NW Ohio
Hi Andy,

I would also like to visit the group on Sunday 9/12/10.

Best regards,

Gary

_________________________
"It's never too late to be what you might have been."

George Elliot

"You cannot find peace by avoiding life."

Virginia Woolf

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#340057 - 09/11/10 05:36 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: 1.healing]
nevragan Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/22/08
Posts: 907
Loc: NC
Glad to see your interest in the HC. It is beneficial to everyone involved. Hope to see you there.

Andy


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#340405 - 09/18/10 12:16 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: nevragan]
blaidd Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/01/00
Posts: 240
Loc: Australia
Hi, I'm going to try and make it to this weeks group, 9/19/10 if I can work out the time zone difference between Australia and Pacific time. hehe smile

_________________________
Blaidd (pronounced as blaith/blithe) is a welsh word meaning wolf.

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#345048 - 11/13/10 06:28 AM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: blaidd]
diamondheart Offline
Member

Registered: 02/25/01
Posts: 157
Loc: Michigan
I would be interested.

_________________________
I am a gay guy just trying to find my way...

http://itismytimetoshine.wordpress.com

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#345062 - 11/13/10 09:30 AM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: diamondheart]
prisonerID Offline
Greeter Emeritus
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/17/08
Posts: 1247
Loc: Oklahoma
Derek,

Just show up in chat a little while before the HC begins and the facilitator will ask who wants to participate. You indicate this by typing in "HC".

I hope to see you there.


Daryl

_________________________
Broad statements often miss their true mark.

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#345099 - 11/13/10 04:36 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: Sans Logos]
DRC Offline


Registered: 11/12/10
Posts: 1
Loc: New York
Hello,

I am new to the site and would love to join Sunday night's chat. My name is Deb. See you there!

_________________________
UBBCODE

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#345157 - 11/14/10 11:15 AM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: DRC]
FormerTexan Offline
Site Administrator
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 11086
Loc: Denver, CO
Hi Deb.

Welcome to Malesurvivor. The Sunday night GBTQ Healing Circle is geared towards men in the gay/bi/transgendered/questioning genre, and not open for women on the site. However, I am looking for a way to get a Healing Circle going for Friends and Family users come January. For the time being you are welcome to use the Lounge chat, in accordance with the chat guidelines.

Andy

_________________________
List of things ain't nobody got time for:

1. That


If I could meet myself as a boy...

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#345195 - 11/14/10 09:08 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: diamondheart]
Drew Offline


Registered: 11/12/10
Posts: 4
Loc: NC
Is this still open?


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#345245 - 11/15/10 05:57 AM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: diamondheart]
diamondheart Offline
Member

Registered: 02/25/01
Posts: 157
Loc: Michigan
i was really bummed I wasn't able to participate in tonight's hc... my internet went out and after a half hour of trying to get it to work, I gave up. huggs

_________________________
I am a gay guy just trying to find my way...

http://itismytimetoshine.wordpress.com

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#345267 - 11/15/10 10:18 AM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: diamondheart]
michael Joseph Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
well there is next week hope the internet is up and working

_________________________
Standing together is so much better than hiding in the dark.
***I am a three time WoR Retreat Alumni***
The Round Table, Men's CSA Group, Monday 7:30pm CST, MaleSurvivor Chat

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#345565 - 11/17/10 04:21 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: michael Joseph]
snakemb Offline


Registered: 11/15/10
Posts: 2
Loc: canada quebec montreal
is that group are still doing it on sunday ?

_________________________
oh just a regular male ex military ex policeman..

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#345576 - 11/17/10 05:54 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: snakemb]
nevragan Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/22/08
Posts: 907
Loc: NC
The group is still meeting at 9pm EST on Sunday nights. All you have to do is show up about 15 minutes early in the chat room to attend. A moderator will ask who is attending the Healing Circle. Hope to see you there.


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#345587 - 11/17/10 07:32 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: nevragan]
snakemb Offline


Registered: 11/15/10
Posts: 2
Loc: canada quebec montreal
thx you l will try to be there ... l'm starting tomorrow my firt reunion with another specialist so l may have few thing to discuss thx you very much mike here..

_________________________
oh just a regular male ex military ex policeman..

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#345708 - 11/18/10 10:53 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: snakemb]
FormerTexan Offline
Site Administrator
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 11086
Loc: Denver, CO
Please review the guidelines at the start of this thread so that you will be prepared to participate.

_________________________
List of things ain't nobody got time for:

1. That


If I could meet myself as a boy...

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#345973 - 11/22/10 12:56 AM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: Sans Logos]
HDM1 Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/09/10
Posts: 1
Loc: California
I would like to join this discussion group and healing circle.
Thank you.


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#345992 - 11/22/10 08:20 AM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: HDM1]
prisonerID Offline
Greeter Emeritus
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/17/08
Posts: 1247
Loc: Oklahoma
We would be glad to have you join us.

_________________________
Broad statements often miss their true mark.

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#350412 - 01/11/11 08:17 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: diamondheart]
HOPE123 Offline


Registered: 12/21/10
Posts: 16
How do you attend the healing circle? I am new here


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#354782 - 02/24/11 11:54 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: HOPE123]
michael Joseph Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
you show up prior to the time and give former texan a private message, if you show up before the meeting u should be able to get in.

_________________________
Standing together is so much better than hiding in the dark.
***I am a three time WoR Retreat Alumni***
The Round Table, Men's CSA Group, Monday 7:30pm CST, MaleSurvivor Chat

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#360558 - 04/23/11 03:15 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: diamondheart]
randy101 Offline


Registered: 02/21/11
Posts: 4
Loc: los angeles
hello, i am interested in checking this out as well.


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#360561 - 04/23/11 03:26 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: randy101]
prisonerID Offline
Greeter Emeritus
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/17/08
Posts: 1247
Loc: Oklahoma
Hi randy1o1,

Just show up to chat a little before 8:00pm Central Time. The facilitator will ask who wants to join the Healing Circle. If interested you simply type in "HC".

You would be very welcome to attend.


Daryl

_________________________
Broad statements often miss their true mark.

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#360627 - 04/24/11 10:32 AM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: prisonerID]
petercorbett Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2435
Loc: TEXAS
Hi, my fraternal brothers.

For those of you who are recent new members this is for you.

Welcome to MS. Here you will receive compassion, understanding & love, from your brothers (fraternal) & friends (in pain).

We all have been there. We have been into the depths of our soul & hell too.

We will hear your cries. We will help in your fears & share in your tears.

Be prepaired for the emotioal roller coaster ride of your life.

As you can see, you have a lot of brothers here. We are never truely alone as we have them. We all have walked in each others shoes. We are here for you.

Heal well, my new fraternal brothers, heal well. You are on your way.

"I will take that lost boys hand, and I will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity." As he is me.

Pete..Irishmoose.

_________________________
Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
____________________________________________________________
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.


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#361698 - 05/08/11 03:20 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: Sans Logos]
ecosurvivor Offline


Registered: 05/08/11
Posts: 2
Loc: California
Can i get in on this?


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#361699 - 05/08/11 03:42 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: ecosurvivor]
Obi Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1332
Loc: kansas
yes, you can be. be in chat close to 9pm eastern/8pm central time tonight.

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live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

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#361723 - 05/08/11 10:30 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: Obi]
FormerTexan Offline
Site Administrator
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 11086
Loc: Denver, CO
ecosurvivor, welcome. Please review the guidelines at the beginning of this thread to help you prepare for healing Circle.

_________________________
List of things ain't nobody got time for:

1. That


If I could meet myself as a boy...

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#363563 - 06/03/11 09:24 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: Sans Logos]
jtafoya11 Offline


Registered: 06/21/09
Posts: 24
Loc: new mexico
i live in new mexico what time woukld it be for me to join the group

_________________________
Randy Tafoya

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#363568 - 06/03/11 10:40 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: jtafoya11]
jevin Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 11/30/10
Posts: 44
Loc: somewhere on the Red Road
Meetings start at 9:00 PM Eastern time. If you're on Mountain time, 7:00 PM.

Hope to see you there.

- Jev

_________________________
"Whatever is rejected from the self appears in the world as an event."
- Carl Jung

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#364054 - 06/12/11 07:49 PM Re: GBTQ Healing Circle slated to resume [Re: jevin]
FormerTexan Offline
Site Administrator
MaleSurvivor
Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 11086
Loc: Denver, CO
ATTENTION..

It's summer time, and time to enjoy the good weather, and the cooking out, and the fun things about life. GBTQ Healing Circle will be taking a break for the summer after June 19, and will resume after Labor Day. This will give participants back their Sunday evenings for the summer, and the facilitators as well. Let's take a break from the hard work and enjoy the summer!

Andy

_________________________
List of things ain't nobody got time for:

1. That


If I could meet myself as a boy...

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