I think you have all missed the point and made it about yoursselves. I acknowledge your pain and memories are still raw but when one comes and says his is searing hot in his mind, we have to stop and not become reabusers by not "hearing" his story and caring for his pain. Please in this forum stop the bickering and back stabbing and please please begin to see each of us struggling to recover what was stolen from us without permission. I stand up in respect to you for having shared your story. I say welcome to the world of us "the injured" trying to find our way when we don't know how to point our own compass but we do what we can even if it is imperfect at times. Your anger is not at yourself or those of us also trying to survior it is to the injustice it happened at all. Rage in constraint, cry without constraint, do what it takes to take back your life. I am on your side as are many or most of us here.