new here today , does anybody have the same thoughts

I just returned from a trip yesterday with my g/f of 7 years and three children,great time had by all she just dropped me off a copy of internet activity showing some thing she found, ,

02151964,

First of all, welcome to MS. If you would like, you could post a brief introduction of yourself in the Introduction section, saying who you are and what lead you here to MaleSurvivor. It would give the guys here an idea of who you are, and give them the chance to welcome you.

Same Sex Attraction (SSA) is a common symptom of being sexually abused. You are not alone in having these feelings. Many straight men here have also come forward with this issue. My suggestion would be to search for "SSA" on this site and see what you can learn from others' stories.

Good luck. And welcome home. You are among brothers.

Your new friend,

Bobcat

hi brother, this is something we all share: it's called SSA or same sex attraction. you're not alone in this regard. if you are finding intrusive thoughts then there is definitely something to be examined there. we have a lot of guys who are trying to separate the difference between authentic gay orientation and guys who may be predominantly heterosexual, yet whose natural orientation may have been obscured due to having been sexually abused or assaulted.

hey, check out ken singers book, evicting the perpetrator. check it out here. he has a lot of chapters posted here on the website as well.:

here is just one example from his book

maybe this will inspire you to take proper steps toward healing from the effects of sexual abuse.

warm regards,

ron

Welcome to MS!

You are by no means alone with this experience. Many here have struggled with the same issue. Take some time to look around and get comfortable. You've made a good first step today. Well done!

Welcome again.

Jim

Welcome,

You are not alone. There are answers here.


Regs

For me... it's more addiction than attraction !

YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD

Thanks for joining and participating - you are definitely not alone and I've found a lot of great support and feedback here. If you haven't sought out a therapist yet, I recommend finding one as this support group can't take the place of a qualified therapist (nor can a therapist take the place of this support group, I have learned).

MS and a therapist are two great tastes that go together - like a Reese's peanut butter cup - I'm being facetious of course but wanted to illustrate how best to get help.

People have only started to scratch the surface of how damaging CSA is and what it does over the long term. Survivors often are left with "it didn't really do anything to me and so there's nothing to do" and they don't seek help. You've made a great first step - let us know how to help you move forward.

Best,
~S

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