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#326273 - 03/26/10 01:14 PM Why You Need a Therapist / Support Group ...
Shaun The Sheep Offline


Registered: 03/17/10
Posts: 188
Loc: West Coast
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Edited by Shaun The Sheep (04/01/11 11:36 AM)

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#326313 - 03/26/10 11:14 PM Re: Why You Need a Therapist / Support Group ... [Re: Shaun The Sheep]
catfish86 Offline
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Registered: 10/27/09
Posts: 823
Loc: Ohio
Well, it has been said that an alcoholic must decide every day not to drink. My wife expresses the hope that once I am done dealing with my CSA, I will no longer be attracted to males. I told her that although God CAN do anything, there are many things He, for whatever reason, does NOT do. One of these is suddenly changing this part of me. I know you may not want to hear this, I know I don't, but some things we do have to learn to live with. Some people have to learn to live without walking, talking, seeing or even being able to move freely. I am not saying "just be a man and get over it" because I know it is definitely not that easy. But I am encouraged that you are seeking answers and asking questions. This is a good sign that you will be able to effectively deal with your issues. It is written, seek and ye shall find, knock and the door shall be opened for you.

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God grant me
The Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The Courage to change the things I can,
And the Wisdom to know the difference.

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#326324 - 03/27/10 12:59 AM Re: Why You Need a Therapist / Support Group ... [Re: catfish86]
Shaun The Sheep Offline


Registered: 03/17/10
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Loc: West Coast
Thanks for that - and I understand that living with this is, on the whole, easier than living without legs or sight. So it's important to maintain perspective.

I would seek to find a life without this baggage if there is one to find - if I haven't found it, I'm no worse off. That's the way I look at it.


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#326962 - 04/01/10 02:05 PM Re: Why You Need a Therapist / Support Group ... [Re: Shaun The Sheep]
wayne9 Offline
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Registered: 05/14/08
Posts: 161
Loc: alabama
Shaun the Sheep said

"I wish that there was a path to that kind of emotional health and wanted to know if anyone has found something like that. I don't mean 'learn to live with it', I mean 'I found the answer and am living happily without it'."
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This is exactly what I keep tell the women I was dating. I don't think there is a way to make someone thats outside looking in, to know how it feels. No way for them to really understand....





Edited by wayne9 (04/01/10 02:05 PM)

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#326967 - 04/01/10 02:46 PM Re: Why You Need a Therapist / Support Group ... [Re: wayne9]
Shaun The Sheep Offline


Registered: 03/17/10
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Loc: West Coast
I'm grateful to my wife for that reason - she doesn't completely understand but has been very supportive.


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