I've just spot this thread and I must say that my heart is breaking while reading about Liri.
So sad story
I went shortly through all thread and saw that Pufferfish has posted some Liri's art and poetry. Anyway by reading other stuff I saw Rob's remark about Liri and some his thoughts in thread Our Secret Doors (see page 9 there): http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=218883&page=15
Here are Liri's words from that thread:
"didn't know who I was.
I didn't know I was born into an abusive family.
I didn't know you weren't supposed to be suicidal at 9 yrs old.
I didn't know what innocence was and I didn't know I'd lost it.
I didn't know it was unnatural to be terrorized.
I didn't understand why I was so hypersexualized.
I didn't know it was okay to be gay.
I didn't know why society hated me so much.
I didn't know my wiring had gotten crossed.
I didn't know I'd end up in a psych ward by age 17.
I didn't know I could have escaped if I'd tried.
I didn't know that it was okay to love my life.
I didn't know there were others just like me."
I'm glad that Liri has been living in your memories even you two didn't have opportunity to connect more. You did wonderful and valuable job finding all about Liri and other family members by discovering secrets. Use that knowledge for some good cause as much as possible. In that respect please consider to share with your cousins story about Liri and his life here. Even some of your cousins don't look like interested it could be more than helpfull for some of them to find his full story. You've said that if they wish they could find it. I agree with you but sometimes human beings live more like day dreaming not being aware of important things happening around. So please consider it, there are many many valuable lessons in his story that couldn't being heard in your family, I must say this is very important. His tragedy and unfortunate fate could bring some good things and change some aspects of your family culture/dynamics among new generation - and that is really matter.