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#324051 - 03/04/10 04:48 PM Where's the support
Gus Bierer Offline
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Registered: 09/16/05
Posts: 160
I'm a little hurt so far i've posted twice and nobody has responded to my posts. Is there something going on that i don't know about, have i been 86'd on support?

I don't expect much, i respond to posts because i want survivors to feel supported. I'm actually, very hurt over this. If no one responds to this post then i feel that i'm not wanted around here. So it's up to you guys if you want to see me go, then don't respond to this post


Gus

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#324052 - 03/04/10 04:56 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: Gus Bierer]
Ever-fixed Mark Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 01/02/10
Posts: 727
Loc: United States
Hey Gus,

I haven't seen your other posts but I thought I'd reply to this one and let you know I hear you. It sounds like you are hurt because you haven't received the support you need. Is that right?

I'm going to go looking for the other posts you are talking about to try and learn more.

-efm

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Everybody's been through their own hell
There's nothing too special about getting hurt
Getting over it, that takes the work

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#324056 - 03/04/10 05:13 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: Ever-fixed Mark]
Gus Bierer Offline
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Registered: 09/16/05
Posts: 160
ever-fixed mark

thank you very much, i can't tell you how good it feels to know someone is out there.

Gus

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#324065 - 03/04/10 06:15 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: Gus Bierer]
earlybird Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/17/10
Posts: 1007
Loc: WA USA
Hey Gus, I'm here and looking. I'll go looking for your other posts. By the way thank-you for your openness about this. I don't know if it will help but only a week ago I posted a poem concerning my frustrations over this same issue. I'll add it here only so you can see you are not alone. Things got a little better but as you pointed out on my other post it can still feel a little lonely at times.

Itís Okay

Voices heard then silence fell
Hands held out then pulled away
Writing words offered from within
Read by many felt by few
Not sure why Iím here
Are you?

What I need I cannot find.
What I want I cannot have.
Itís not your job to see me through
Not sure why Iím here
Are you?

Needed to ask but can no longer say.
My feelings and thoughts are a toxic brew.
Shared them here
Did you?

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There is symmetry
In self-reflection
Life exemplified
Grace personified

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#324074 - 03/04/10 06:56 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: Gus Bierer]
ComicBookGuy Offline
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Registered: 02/08/09
Posts: 443
Loc: London, England
Originally Posted By: Gus Bierer
I'm a little hurt so far i've posted twice and nobody has responded to my posts. Is there something going on that i don't know about, have i been 86'd on support?

I don't expect much, i respond to posts because i want survivors to feel supported. I'm actually, very hurt over this. If no one responds to this post then i feel that i'm not wanted around here. So it's up to you guys if you want to see me go, then don't respond to this post

Gus


Hey Gus,

1) I've responded to one of your posts that I saw earlier, but hadn't come to the conclusion of what I was going to say, even then I tend to have to edit what I post to get the right meaning across.

2) I don't know where you're from, if you post between 4pm (PST) and 7pm (EST) American time, the Brits, unless they're insomniacs, will be asleep and won't see your posts until next day - that's not ignoring you, just that we won't physically be at the screen to see it until later.

I'm warming up my room before I hit the sack so will check a few of your other posts, but if you get a delayed response from me my second point is the biggest reason.

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#324103 - 03/05/10 01:37 AM Re: Where's the support [Re: ComicBookGuy]
sono Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 07/19/09
Posts: 1069
Gus,

Hey man, I'm sorry I neither saw nor responded to your posts. I know that feeling you have and it sucks!!!

I haven't been in chat in a long time but I remember having some good talks in there.

I hope I can get over to the actual posts to which you're referring later on in the day. Even if I don't, know that sono is thinking of gus!

sono

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#324171 - 03/05/10 06:04 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: sono]
Gus Bierer Offline
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Registered: 09/16/05
Posts: 160
Thank you


YOu guys have just made me feel a lot better. It's just at this time in my life i seem to be alone a lot and for the most part it's ok., but there's that percentage of the time that i need, and i hate this word "attention". I hope you guys understand.


Gus

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#324183 - 03/05/10 07:03 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: Gus Bierer]
Dusty Boy Offline
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Registered: 11/15/08
Posts: 280
Loc: Australia
Gus,

One thing survivors often have is asking for what they want. In your post you put it out there, good on you.

Dusty


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#324186 - 03/05/10 07:08 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: Dusty Boy]
sabata Offline
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Registered: 08/08/06
Posts: 1948
i dont feel worthy enough as i have screwed up my life so much


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#324190 - 03/05/10 07:17 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: sabata]
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 507
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
Hey, Gus?

I'm sorry that you feel alone. Do me a big favor, okay? If you don't feel like I'm hearing you, then yell louder. I'll hear you then.

By the way, I would NEVER stop supporting another survivor here. Never. And don't feel embarrassed to say that you need some attention. Don't we all sometimes? I know I do. If you want someone to pay attention to you and listen to your problems, buddy, YOU GOT IT! I'm here for you ANYTIME you need me. Remember to shout, though. smile

Your friend,

Bobcat

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#326334 - 03/27/10 04:15 AM Re: Where's the support [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
Little_Phillip Offline


Registered: 03/20/10
Posts: 5
Loc: Tennessee
Gus,
Hope you are doing well. I can relate to your story, I am in AA too. Take care of yourself.

Peace,
Phillip


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#326355 - 03/27/10 10:07 AM Re: Where's the support [Re: Little_Phillip]
wayne9 Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/14/08
Posts: 161
Loc: alabama
Gus, I have only been open about my csa for a few months and just started on this site last week. I have posted a few time ( I think you responded to me ) but I guess I just feel that I am not worthy of trying to help others. Sorry I felt that way but hope others who are more along with there problems can help you and me also. Hang in there.


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#326367 - 03/27/10 11:10 AM Re: Where's the support [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
Mountainous Buck Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/15/09
Posts: 1626
Loc: Minnesota
Howdy Gus,

Thanks for letting us know how you feel:

I figured since you've been around on MS for 5 years, you were a pro at this. I always appreciate reading what you've got to say, it's a big part of what I come here for-to hear what other men have to offer.

Namaste,

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#326387 - 03/27/10 04:24 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: Mountainous Buck]
kidneythis Offline


Registered: 11/08/09
Posts: 1558
Hey gus,
Long time no speaky between us. I get that feeling sometimes too. We as a group tend to be paranoid about things when we need something and it isn't coming. I Don't think you've done anything wrong I've never seen anything bad about you on here so no worries man.
Thanks for speaking up I never think to do that when I'm hurting and feel rejected by the site, it's a good reminder.

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#326393 - 03/27/10 05:58 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: kidneythis]
lungfish Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 09/26/08
Posts: 64
Loc: nowhere special nj
Hey gus, I read a lot of your posts and even more you responses to others posts. I think very highly of your responses and I wish I was as confident in what have to say as you are. many times I will write responses and not send them because of my own self doubt. I know how you feel though, sometimes I will go on chat and right after I get on a bunch of guys will say something like; its getting late i'm going to turn in and sign off. I know its a coincidence but I feel that it is due to me or that there is some secret club here that I am not a part of. I admire you putting it out there as bluntly as you did, that is something I am not good at but I am trying to push myself more to be like that. Thanks for the good example.

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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." Ralph Waldo Emerson

Personally I'm always ready to learn, although I do not always like to be taught. -Sir Winston Churchill

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#326794 - 03/31/10 01:37 AM Re: Where's the support [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
DaveyD Offline


Registered: 03/29/10
Posts: 15
Loc: California
Gus,

Got your back bro!!!
Right here with ya.

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Stay alive, don't drink, don't kill, don't die and you win!

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#326921 - 04/01/10 02:25 AM Re: Where's the support [Re: Gus Bierer]
Charlie24 Offline


Registered: 09/28/08
Posts: 562
Gus I realize this is a little late, but better than never.

I appreciated you always being there for me in chat. Thank you for that.

You too deserve that same compassion and respect.

I'm happy to be here for you and help you bud.

Charlie.


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#423233 - 01/25/13 10:14 PM Re: Where's the support [Re: Gus Bierer]
true Offline


Registered: 01/25/13
Posts: 1
Gus,
If you ever read this, I believe I am your cousin. My family has been looking for you since your mother passed away. We were never given any information where you went, and we could not find you. I would love to speak to you. - wendy Bierer-truzerls. My dad was Dale(Herk), and your mother was Beth

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