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#322202 - 02/15/10 04:19 PM Bobcat hopes to make some friends
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 493
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
My name is Bob, but to most of my friends I am The Bobcat.

I'm a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I'll put my story in Survivor Stories, but it's a little too soon for me.

I've been in individual therapy for 6 months, and it has really helped me. I haven't had a suicidal thought in all that time, and I'm beginning to think I won't ever again!

I still have a long way to go toward recovery, but I feel that the main thing I am lacking is connectivity to those who can REALLY understand my situation - and that brings me here. I would like, more than anything, to feel accepted. Abuse and all.

I like what I've seen of this website - you are a GOOD bunch of guys! - and I think I will find here what I am looking for.

Anyway, I'm glad to be aboard, and I'll stay as long as you'll let me.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Bobcat



Edited by TheBobcatAgain (02/24/10 08:02 AM)

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#322204 - 02/15/10 04:32 PM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
ComicBookGuy Offline
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Registered: 02/08/09
Posts: 443
Loc: London, England
Chances are I might have posted in one of your threads already Bobcat but welcome anyway :D, Arizona's a beautiful place, went there when I was a kid but want to go back and see the bridge sometime as I only made it to the Canyon.

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#322211 - 02/15/10 04:56 PM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: ComicBookGuy]
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 493
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
Thanks, CBG.

I've run into so many guys here that I would like to count as friends, that I can't remember if I've run into you either (lol), but I would be honored to count you among them.

Let me know if there's anything I can do for you.

Bobcat


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#322493 - 02/18/10 12:10 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
earlybird Offline
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Registered: 02/17/10
Posts: 1007
Loc: WA USA
Hey Bobcat thanks for your post on my introduction. I didnít realize you were relatively knew to this site. Iíll keep a look out for other postings of yours. I once lived in AZ. in a small village called Bacavi which is located about 2 Ĺ hours out of flagstaff on the third mesa centered on the Hope Reservation. Ever heard of it? You should visit it sometime that is, if you havenít already. Anyway off subject, thanks for your post. Earlybird

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#322501 - 02/18/10 01:20 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: earlybird]
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
Hi, earlybird.

Sadly, I haven't done much traveling, even in AZ. I've never even been to the Grand Canyon, and I've lived here all my life!

Anyway, welcome aboard, and I look forward to reading your posts as well.

Your friend,

Bobcat

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#322505 - 02/18/10 01:54 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
nomansanisland Offline
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Registered: 02/02/09
Posts: 156
Loc: NM
Bob....

You deserve the best in life man. i enjoyed talking forgiveness with you in the chat room.
THAT IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE SUBJECTS!!!

You will find many here that will be willing to be friends with someone as caring and open as you are. I read your survivor story, you touched my heart ...i am so glad to belong here, and glad that you came too....

For me ,this is the only place that has real people. People who will tell it like it is, and remember that you are a person who comes from the same place that they come from and treat you with respect . we do not hurt each other here, its just not done.
you are in the right place , read some posts, join in the conversations in the chat room...
youre always welcome.
take care Bobcat ( Bob) ...
be good to yourself !
Patrick

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#322514 - 02/18/10 06:26 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: nomansanisland]
sono Offline
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Registered: 07/19/09
Posts: 1069
Welcome Bobcat!!

If it's connectivity to those who "get" it, then indeed you're in the right place.

I wish you all the best on your journey.

Sono

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#322528 - 02/18/10 10:32 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: nomansanisland]
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 493
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
THANK YOU, PATRICK! THANK YOU!

I'm usually pretty good with words, but I'm starting to falter. Every time another one of you befriends me, I find it harder and harder to put into words how grateful I am. There just don't seem to be words that are fit to describe how much love and belonging I feel from all of you. I'm just not used to being loved and accepted this much.

But I'll try...here goes...

Thank you for my life, Patrick. You're not stopping me from suicide or anything like that, but...you're saving me nonetheless.

I really have to go for a tissue now. I can't see the computer screen anymore.

Thank you for my life.

A very grateful Bobcat

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#322532 - 02/18/10 10:45 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: sono]
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
Thank you, Sono, both for welcoming me and feeling connectivity with me. I only hope I can be helpful to you in return.

If you ever need to talk about something, I've been told I listen pretty well. I'd be only too happy to listen to you.

Your friend,

Bobcat

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#322535 - 02/18/10 10:58 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
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Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1250
Loc: kansas
bobcat,

welcome to ms. sorry, that you have to come here but glad that you have the support.

you'll soon learn that you will be given a LOT of support, guidance and understanding here. not to mention making friends...

some of these steps in recovery are difficult ones but the rewards are great.

feel free to private message me if you ever need to have a private discussion.

you are a good man! you deserve peace, joy and happiness in your life!

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#322541 - 02/18/10 12:13 PM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: Obi]
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Registered: 02/17/10
Posts: 1007
Loc: WA USA
Hey Bobcat, read your story just now. Sorry. Iíve never felt the type of loneliness you were addressing then. You said you would whisper in my ear to drowned out older noises, well Iíll go out into the forest with you anytime. Okay!

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#322583 - 02/18/10 10:40 PM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
nomansanisland Offline
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Registered: 02/02/09
Posts: 156
Loc: NM
Bobcat,
Now I have to write you back!
We each save another and then pay it forward. You will do this all by yourself when you feel in a better place.

You made me cry too. Your search is the same one i set out on 1 year ago this month. I have so much to do still. We have so much to do. I just want you to breathe a little bit and give yourself some love for comming here. Risking feeling akward and odd to speak your pain into cyberspace is huge in my book. I think we all have trust issues, and we are hypersensitive to our own worlds.I feel here like, i am among friends in a world of acceptance. I never fear what my heart may say here. I am surprised how compassionate i have become towards other people . usually ...i am suspicious of anyone comming to close and try to read so much into what others say that normal communication is difficult and often painful. painful, for fear that they may see my secrets hidden behind my own eyes and know i have felt as half a man all my life . All because someone decided to make me thier prey...

You are worth risking my own embarrassment, i really have no shame. we all must reach out and find a hand to hold...
here for you bobcat.
Listen to yourself and say, "I have friends". Never a truer word spoken . Keep growing , keep writing...

in friendship,
Patrick

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#322591 - 02/19/10 12:53 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: nomansanisland]
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Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2430
Loc: TEXAS
Hi, my fraternal brother.

Welcome to MS. Here you will receive compassion, understanding & love, from your brothers (fraternal) & friends (in pain).

We all have been there. We have been into the depths of our soul & hell too.

Here we do not judge. We will listen to your cries. We will help you in your fears & we will feel your tears.

Be prepaired for thre emotional roller coaster ride of your life.

You are on your way.

Heal well my fraternal brother, Bobcat, heal well.

"I will take that lost boys hand, and i will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity."

Little Pete & big Pete, trying desperately to become 1.



Edited by petercorbett (02/19/10 12:04 PM)
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#322595 - 02/19/10 02:24 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: nomansanisland]
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 493
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
I've got your hand, Patrick. It feels warm and comforting in my hand, and that alone tells me that the man on the other end of that hand couldn't possibly be only half a man, and he never, ever was. I'm holding your hand close to my heart; it just feels like it belongs there. I won't let go of your hand if you won't let go of mine.

Thank you for being my friend. I understand now how you have saved me. You saved me from my own isolation and darkness.

I love you for that. Sorry if that sounds stupid. I'm still new at expressing affection for friends. Don't mean to offend.

Keep in touch, okay?

Bobcat

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#322596 - 02/19/10 02:31 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: petercorbett]
TheBobcatAgain Offline
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 493
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
Thank you for your welcoming reply, L&B Pete. You've made this Bobcat very happy. I want to thank you right now and in advance for listening to me, sharing stories with me, and befriending me. I warmly appreciate it.

I'm not sure which Pete I'm talking to - it feels like the Big Pete - but I would sure like to get to know the Little Pete, too.

Thank you again. You're a good man.

Your fraternal brother,

Bobcat

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#322610 - 02/19/10 08:05 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
earlybird Offline
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Registered: 02/17/10
Posts: 1007
Loc: WA USA
Morning Bobcat, missed talking with you last night. I posted another poem on the poem site. A little more insight about my history but not pertaining to the rape stuff, worse actually. If youíre interested itís there, Earlybird

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#432273 - 04/24/13 11:32 AM Re: Bobcat hopes to make some friends [Re: TheBobcatAgain]
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Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 412
Loc: USA
Hi Bobcat, we've talked in chat and I get u, suicide thoughts and all. I hve been in T since October, and I hve learned we all hve different stories but shared hurts. There are a lot of good people here, and u can count me as an MS friend if you're down for that. I think we can all help each other heal. Im finding T is tough, but good. Also learned now that I was never defined by it or them. So now it's something I went through, not who I am. Have a lot of work to do but am moving forward. So welcome Brother! smile
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