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#321686 - 02/10/10 01:06 PM Oprah Looking For Survivors
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Originally Posted By: Oprah
Are You a Victim of Sexual Abuse?

We're you sexually abused as a child? Have you lived life with feelings of shame because of the abuse you suffered as a child? Have you felt that the sexual abuse was somehow your fault? Did you feel "groomed" by your abuser at the time of the sexual abuse -- or did it take you years to realize you had been "groomed" by your abuser? What kind of emotional damage did the abuse do to you as a child and as an adult? In what ways has the abuse affected the rest of your life? The Oprah Show is looking for adults willing to discuss the painful details of their abuse and its lasting effects. Respond only if you are willing to discuss this topic on national television.

Click on the link below:

http://www.oprah.com/ownshow/plug_form.html?plug_id=3662134



Come on guys - let's have some from MaleSurvivor on her show. I can't do it because I get too emotional and I wouldn't present a good "front". I know there must be a bunch of guys here who could do it. We don't want her to just have girls doing it.

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#321697 - 02/10/10 02:04 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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i just posted a reply to the oprah link you provided allen.

told them that i am a male survivor of sexual abuse and that there are a lot of us out there. i then provided my poem that i wrote.

we'll see what happens.

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#321717 - 02/10/10 04:32 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: Obi]
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Submitted and willing.


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#321749 - 02/10/10 08:35 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: JustScott]
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I would. Unfortunately, my mother is still in denial and from knowlege of history, etc, being forced to face what happened might kill her. I am also a semi public figure that public knowledge of my sufferings might negatively impact. Would they be willing to change names, obscure certain identifying details, allow minor feature changes (ie hair color, glasses)? I don't know if I could trust them. BTW, just for informed submissions, be aware of the following clause in the disclaimer:

All Submissions shall become the property of Harpo, may be edited for length, clarity and/or functionality, will not be subject to any obligation of confidentiality, may be shared with and used by the staff of Harpo and any of their affiliated companies or entities and shared with legal authorities if Harpo believes it warranted. Neither Harpo nor any third or other party with whom Harpo shares the Submissions shall be liable for any use or disclosure of any information or Submission that you submit.




Edited by catfish86 (02/10/10 08:39 PM)
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#321760 - 02/10/10 10:05 PM Oprah Looking For Survivors
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In my opinion, this is yet another sad example of how much attention is fixated upon CSA. Unfortunately, there are other types of sexual abuse out there and the media's unwillingness to confront those, except in extreme situations, is a shame and a disgrace. I'm disappointed that someone who is supposed to be an elite journalist fails to see this.


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#321765 - 02/10/10 10:17 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: LN3(SS)]
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I'm not acting as an agent of Oprah or any of her organization in announcing this. But having said that it seems like a tremendous opportunity to present the position of sexual abuse of male children. No it's not going to be for everybody. But there are some who will champion this for the opportunity it is.

So far, thank you Obi.

Allen

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#321784 - 02/11/10 12:10 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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BTW, I agree with pufferfish. It is very important for others to learn the effects of CSA. It is important that people learn both the horrible consequences and yet also that it can be survived. I was just saying that you should be realistic in your expectations. Yes, they may say they are dedicated to education, but underneath, it is part of the entertainment industry. I applaud our members who are willing to take the risks and be a public face for the rest of us.

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#321811 - 02/11/10 11:03 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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Originally Posted By: pufferfish
I'm not acting as an agent of Oprah or any of her organization in announcing this. But having said that it seems like a tremendous opportunity to present the position of sexual abuse of male children. No it's not going to be for everybody. But there are some who will champion this for the opportunity it is.

So far, thank you Obi.

Allen

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I'd agree with what you said but in a different way; as well as a great opportunity, it's Oprah Winfrey's last chance prior to going cable to treat male and female survivors equally without appealing to the voyeur market, as her shows have done almost every other time (of those that I've seen) dating back to interviewing Brian Stafford 20 years ago. I'm not holding my breath.

There are two more sets of shows to go in this special as well, so I'll try and remain open-minded due to the gesture of letting non-US viewers watch the special online, from which she will make no money.



Edited by ComicBookGuy (02/11/10 11:05 AM)
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#321831 - 02/11/10 02:54 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: ComicBookGuy]
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Originally Posted By: catfish86
It is very important for others to learn the effects of CSA. It is important that people learn both the horrible consequences and yet also that it can be survived.
I think this statement could be applied to any form of abuse, not just CSA. The unfortunate tendency seems to be to appropriate the statement above solely for CSA survivors.

As for Oprah specifically, I should be more disappointed in her as a survivor. She should realize the harmful consequences of abuse at any age. Alas, I grew up with her when she was here in Baltimore in the early '80s, and she is just as much an oppurtunist now as she was then.

I am just curious whether MaleSurvivor, as an organization consisting primarily of CSA survivors, has asked to be a part of this show?

Brian

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#321832 - 02/11/10 03:08 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: LN3(SS)]
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well, i have replied to the producers to see if they would be interested. that was yesterday and i'm not expecting a reply back anytime soon.

however, if i do get a reply i would make it a point to see about getting representatives of malesurvivor to be interviewed and so on.

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#321852 - 02/11/10 07:58 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: Obi]
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submited what is already public knowledge, wait and see if there is a responce.

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#321853 - 02/11/10 08:06 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: Obi]
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I don't want to discourage anyone but I think it important to point out that this is a TV show.
Oprah, who's press tells us is a great person and does great things isn't necessarily going to be personally involved in this. It will most likely be Producers et al who you end up dealing with and being HANDLED by.
While I am glad someone from here wants to shine light on this our problem, don't set your expectations too high. Oprah isn't going to fix your life, becomeing well known may ruin your life, and in all of this her motive as well as her producers is to create a good TV show not to help you personally. Her aim is to help the large impersonal and unknown group known as "people who have been harmed".
I don't think they will do anything intentionally harmful but if one of you appears emotionally vulnerable to a producer don't be surprised if you are triggered just before you're on air.

So you might want to consult your own therapist before going forward with any offers to be on her show. Even if the producers offer you a "very good therapist" to check you out etc., use your own first.
Producers are people but they have to ensure they make money



EDIT: this seemed important enought to post here in case anyone is like me and didn't read it. I often don't read these things as they are all signed under some form of duress and thus invalid but anyway here it is in case you missed it.
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1. The Submissions may be shared with The Producers and/or developers of The Oprah Winfrey Show and/or other Harpo Productions, Inc. (or its related entities, including, without limitation, Oprah.com and OWN) related programming.
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Edited by kidneythis (02/12/10 04:29 PM)
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#321879 - 02/12/10 01:25 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: kidneythis]
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Thanks guys

Thanks to you who have already stepped forward.

Yes there are some things you want to carefully consider.

But I'm sure they are not going to be rough with you. Remember that Oprah is a survivor. She knows very well the pain. She's just looking for others to present your side of it. We need some guys to talk about it.

It's not for everybody. Don't look at it as though you are furthering the cause of Oprah. You are furthering the cause of all of us who experienced abuse as children.

Just also remember what a great opportunity this is for our cause. There are huge misunderstandings in the eye of the public about what it means to be a "survivor". Our case needs to be made. It's so, so important. Some of you have the ability to do this and do it well. Please step forward.

Allen

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#321888 - 02/12/10 03:11 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: Obi]
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What happened after you submitted your story? I submitted mine twice and ended up at some kind of dead blank page that had Harpo Studios URL in my address bar. Did any of you guys see anything different after you submitted your stories?

Just wondered

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#321893 - 02/12/10 07:30 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: Trucker51]
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mark,

i got the same thing you did. wasn't sure if it truly was sent or not. my thought was that if it was meant to be i will hear back from them. if not, then i won't.

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#321915 - 02/12/10 03:48 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: Obi]
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I got the blank page but didn't even get the Harpo Studios URL in my address bar. Guess it wasn't meant to be!


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#321916 - 02/12/10 04:32 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pluckmemory]
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I'm hoping she finds some articulate people who can explain clearly to the uninjured why it is we are in so much pain and how the damage is made permanent in the worst way to many who cannot find help or compassion.

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#321943 - 02/12/10 11:36 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: kidneythis]
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I'm hoping she will find enough guys that she can have a panel of just guys. I think she will line up about 4 guys on those production stools and then ask questions, like "How old were you?", "What effect did it have on you," etc.

Allen




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#322033 - 02/14/10 12:09 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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Originally Posted By: Oprah
Are You a Victim of Sexual Abuse?

We're you sexually abused as a child? Have you lived life with feelings of shame because of the abuse you suffered as a child? Have you felt that the sexual abuse was somehow your fault? Did you feel "groomed" by your abuser at the time of the sexual abuse -- or did it take you years to realize you had been "groomed" by your abuser? What kind of emotional damage did the abuse do to you as a child and as an adult? In what ways has the abuse affected the rest of your life? The Oprah Show is looking for adults willing to discuss the painful details of their abuse and its lasting effects. Respond only if you are willing to discuss this topic on national television.

Click on the link below:

http://www.oprah.com/ownshow/plug_form.html?plug_id=3662134



Come on guys - let's have some from MaleSurvivor on her show. I can't do it because I get too emotional and I wouldn't present a good "front". I know there must be a bunch of guys here who could do it. We don't want her to just have girls doing it.

posted by Allen

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#322045 - 02/14/10 01:59 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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Allen,

I don't think Oprah wants someone who is going to put on a "front". I think she wants' people who are going to be genuine on the show even if that means showing the pain and emotion. I think you would do very well in helping show the public the impact this terrible scourge has on people and society. I mean that in the most supportive way possible, My Friend.

John

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#322109 - 02/14/10 06:00 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: WalkingSouth]
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It is worth noting that a few years ago Oprah had female child rapists on her show and basically gave them a pass and allowed the women to present themselves as victims. With the one boy she interviewed, she allowed his rapist's version of the story to be told first and had the boy, who was around 16 at the time, sit there while Oprah played his rapist's interview on screen. The most compassion Oprah could muster was a mildly indifferent "You know it's not your fault."

I am not trying to convince anyone from going on the show, but people should keep it in mind that Oprah has a history of excusing female perpetrated physical and sexual violence, especially against boys and men. More likely than not, the majority of the guests will be women and the one or two men interviewed likely will not receive the same amount of time.

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#322110 - 02/14/10 06:23 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: jacobtk]
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In all honesty I've noticed a marked change in Oprah's approach of this topic over recent years. She seems to have moved from the position that it was impossible for a male to be sexually abused to a position that it does happen and has begun to take steps in telling our story in her programming. I applaud her for these moves.

Bottom line is that in our society there's still a long way to go before male victimization is given the same attention and level of support from media and government agencies but it is changing, if gradually.

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#322122 - 02/14/10 08:35 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: WalkingSouth]
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I want to affirm Walking South's recognition- tomorrow's show is on Mother's abusing sons- i've seen the previews and it's right on and an area i've had particularly close contact with - from the previews , i feel Oprah, like all of us, is on a journey of learning. As Maya Angelou says, "When we know better, we do better" .
I am excited about tomorrow's show- breaking the silence on the ultimate taboo. and the son survivor's courage knows no bounds in my book- he's going to deserve much followup support . she has developed much greater sensitivity in asking the honest questions and she's showing courage too in doing what i'm sure not all her producers supported.

Thanks Walking South for sharing your male perception of it since i can only come from my female one. I recommend going to the website full versions after the shows cause watching them gives a more complete picture.

hmmm, i just caught myself not expecting the level of honesty from the mother perpetrator that we heard from the brave honst men last week, 2 or 3 of which had been survivors themselves. Time will tell. Hoping, An



Edited by An (02/14/10 08:38 PM)

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#322129 - 02/14/10 09:22 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: WalkingSouth]
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Originally Posted By: walkingsouth
Allen,

I don't think Oprah wants someone who is going to put on a "front". I think she wants' people who are going to be genuine on the show even if that means showing the pain and emotion. I think you would do very well in helping show the public the impact this terrible scourge has on people and society. I mean that in the most supportive way possible, My Friend.

John


John, I was beginning to wonder this myself. So your message comes as confirmatory.

I remember when I had to give "live" testimony to an administrative committee in the big city. I almost became dysfunctional. I had severe psychosomatic pain. My voice shook and locked up as I started to give my testimony. Then the ears of the committee perked up. They granted me extra time. I was told by the lawyer that I did well. As soon as it was over, all the pain left.

Allen


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#322132 - 02/14/10 09:57 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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I was pm'd by someone here with an idea. Personally, I would never respond given the wording of the disclaimer. Bottom line they can broadcast my story, name and all with no repercussions. Oprah has used identity screens of varying types. I would do it if one of the moderators I trusted fronted my story and got assurances of anonymity without going through the website.

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#322145 - 02/15/10 12:49 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: WalkingSouth]
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Originally Posted By: walkingsouth
In all honesty I've noticed a marked change in Oprah's approach of this topic over recent years. She seems to have moved from the position that it was impossible for a male to be sexually abused to a position that it does happen and has begun to take steps in telling our story in her programming. I applaud her for these moves.

Bottom line is that in our society there's still a long way to go before male victimization is given the same attention and level of support from media and government agencies but it is changing, if gradually.


Perhaps, but even on the preview for Monday's show she frames Gregg Milligan's mother raping him as "seduction," and these were acts being done to a 9-year-old boy. She may be making an effort, but I think it is more for her to exploit male victims for ratings, or for the gratification of her audience, than any genuine concern for abused boys or men. I do not think it helps much if the only interest is treating victims of female abuse like novelties. However, I will watch the show to see whether she again excuses female-perpetrated child rape as she did several years ago.

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#322186 - 02/15/10 01:56 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: jacobtk]
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She seemed to do OK with Shaun Hornbeck but that involved a major scoop involving a male perp so he may have gotten kid glove treatment the rest of us would not. Maybe we are a suspicious lot but who can blame us after what we have faced.

Also, considering Oprah's school for girls in Africa turned out to have a serious SA problem, I am not sure if she isn't a little hypocritical on this issue.



Edited by catfish86 (02/15/10 01:57 PM)
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#322191 - 02/15/10 03:03 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: catfish86]
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Well, today's show was rather surprising because it was really fair. Oprah handled the topic of female sexual abusers without making excuses or minimizing Gregg Milligan's abuse. Hopefully that is what the other show will be like.

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#322212 - 02/15/10 05:02 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: jacobtk]
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They say the whole thing's on the site tomorrow, I'll have to catch it but in the afternoon with the time difference - viewing the first special took over the day.

At least in the comments section they're making criticisms we might have made ourselves as with the first special, including one from a therapist, so people can't say we're biased and too close to the issue.

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#322236 - 02/15/10 06:59 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: ComicBookGuy]
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ABUSE BY FEMALE (MOTHER)

I watched the show today. It was concerned with the abuse of "Gregg" by his mother. Gregg is now 47. Gregg was sexually abused by his mother starting at age 8 (if I remember correctly) through age 11. She also "sold" his body to men in the neighborhood and threatened that if he didn't cooperate they wouldn't be able to eat.

I thought that Oprah handled it sensitively and carefully. She is trying to balance her role as show hostess with being a T.V. therapist. I approve of the way she handled it. She didn't embarrass Gregg or his sister and yet she was forthright about the flagrant abuse.

I think Oprah is performing an excellent role in educating the public about the nature of child sexual abuse.

Allen

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#322264 - 02/15/10 09:11 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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i think opraah did handle it to the point that was educatred the public,but i wouldnt go on national televisoin i think it would not be good to me i need to work through my issues here and with my therapist

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#322280 - 02/15/10 11:46 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: jtafoya11]
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I just watched it on Tivo with my wife. A lot of that sounds very familiar. Oprah did do a good job with this one.

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#322305 - 02/16/10 10:12 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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Originally Posted By: pufferfish
I think Oprah is performing an excellent role in educating the public about the nature of child sexual abuse.


I saw this too, and I agree.

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#322312 - 02/16/10 12:06 PM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: catfish86]
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Originally Posted By: catfish86
I just watched it on Tivo with my wife. A lot of that sounds very familiar. Oprah did do a good job with this one.


Just finished streaming it. Very powerful, and Oprah managed to rein herself in to a degree, and give a public service by having the whole family's input and giving a plug for RAINN at the end.

Gregg Mulligan himself was also articulate enough not to have too many words put down his mouth by Oprah so it was a very balanced interview because she didn't get away with her usual "didn't you enjoy it" bullshit and rephrased "how did it feel" as "tell us what it did to you". Hopefully it'll get parcelled into 4 parts on Youtube so can be seen long after it goes off her site for the sections that were helpful.

On reflection, if it wasn't such a rounded packaged story IE his mother is dead, he moved on to marry and have a child that grew up fine - you'd wonder if that programme would have turned out as above-average as it was compared to her siding with female offenders in the past.



Edited by ComicBookGuy (02/16/10 02:05 PM)
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#322382 - 02/17/10 12:32 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: ComicBookGuy]
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Does anybody know what the schedule is for these events? Is Oprah going to do one per week for awhile or what?

Also, are they genuinely available on Oprah website?

Allen

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#322404 - 02/17/10 06:55 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: pufferfish]
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No idea about the schedule, there was a week's gap between the male offender special and the Gregg Mulligan single show. So maybe we'll have the female offender special by the end of the month.

On the day they're on TV there are only trailers on the website, the day after transmission the whole episode minus ads (but leaving in those annoying MTV "coming up" and "recap" mini-clips) is uploaded. No idea how long they stay there for, so watch fast.



Edited by ComicBookGuy (02/17/10 06:55 AM)
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#322920 - 02/22/10 01:03 AM Re: Oprah Looking For Survivors [Re: ComicBookGuy]
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Both are still on website- just take a little digging. new one still easy to find BUT must look in both cases for the ones noted as 00.00.00 as their time vs the 2 minute ad blurbs.

first show worth looking for- was twice lenght of sho as show was 2edited hrs into the commercial show hr (and NO commercials on the site videos- its broken into 4 parts and better than show for info but again you have to scroll back looking under VIDEOs - today it was back to page 5 but each day will move page/s . again look for the 00.00.00 timed ones. wish she'd made those download/recordable.
worth the tiny bit of finding effort for sure- just wish shed had a professional to guide the second one. felt it was little more sensationlized than the first show despite good intentions.

but totally worth watching. Heal on~ An





Edited by An (02/22/10 01:04 AM)
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