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#319500 - 01/20/10 12:06 PM Issue of telling
Dale English Offline
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Hey everyone,

Found this study online today. No surprises!

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/...how/5480644.cms

Taz


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#319503 - 01/20/10 12:48 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: Dale English]
onlyakid Offline
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Registered: 03/31/04
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Loc: New Jersey
Yeah the only surprise is that the amount of time isn't longer. Most of the people on this site waited decades. I know I waited
13-14 years before I said anything to anyone including a therapist.

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#319504 - 01/20/10 01:00 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: onlyakid]
InsideTheWall Offline


Registered: 01/10/09
Posts: 279
It was about 10 years for me.


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#319506 - 01/20/10 01:18 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: InsideTheWall]
LandOfShadow Offline
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Registered: 12/11/07
Posts: 684
Loc: Minneapolis, Minnesota USA
Part of the problem for me is it took a therapist to convince me it was important, a big deal, ok even abuse and point out all the effects showing up in my life.

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#319508 - 01/20/10 01:40 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: LandOfShadow]
DJsport Offline
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Registered: 02/20/08
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I told the first time 3 years ago which was 36 years later.

I am happy I told even then. Kudos to all of us.

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#319516 - 01/20/10 02:50 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: DJsport]
petercorbett Offline
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Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2430
Loc: TEXAS
Hi, my fraternal brothers.

For this old boy, it took me 56 years after the last act of sexual agression on me. I was 14 when it ended. And i was 69 1/2 years old when it all came out. I told my primary care physician.

Dealing with it ever since, as we all do.

Heaal well my fraternal brothers, heal well.

Little Pete & big Pete..but 1 (Irishmoose).



Edited by petercorbett (01/20/10 02:51 PM)
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#319518 - 01/20/10 03:02 PM Re: Issue of telling [Re: petercorbett]
Obi Offline
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Registered: 12/28/09
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Loc: kansas
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Edited by Obi (04/30/13 10:27 PM)
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#319571 - 01/21/10 12:19 AM Re: Issue of telling [Re: Obi]
ericc Offline
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Registered: 01/04/08
Posts: 1955
I know for myself, the big damage came from keeping it all inside and disconnecting from life (or letting it spill out all over the place with my coping mechanisms.) When I was ready to share in many ways I was silenced because either my family didn't want to hear from me or the professionals didn't ask the right questions that would have helped me see it as abuse. Well, at least I no longer suffer in that silence but there is still suffering that comes from having not dealt with it earlier. Not much I can do but try and make things better today.

Eric

Actually, one cool thing about this article is that is acknowledged both female and male abuse. Maybe people are starting to get it.


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