to carry over from a prior thread of yours,
it seems what is proposed here is that perhaps both heterosexuality [propagation of the species] AND homosexuality are hard wired in [sex for the sheer joy of it] to the sexuality equation. albeit inconclusively, the research thus far on the subject point to the idea that sexuality and gender expression lies along a continuum. in my whacky opinion, any sexual act that is not open to procreation [heterosexuality] may as well be classified as homosexuality, since the bottom line goal of such an act is to have an orgasmic experience with another person, and without the procreation factor, what makes it more than two people enjoying getting off together? yes, there are many more reasons people have sex, than to 'make a baby'. that may be a good topic for another thread.
i can really appreciate your angle on this though. and i can agree with the statement that being hard wired for reproduction is a characteristic of humans, i don't know that it necessarily follows that ALL humans are predisposed to engage in breeding behaviors. i do know for myself, i have a very low libido, and my 'gayness' is mainly apparent in the fact that i am emotionally and spiritually attracted to males primarily. i long to be close physically as well, but that does not register for me in a powerfully erogenous manner [some more so than others, but not all males are attractive to me]. i think i'm more sexually 'turned on' by honesty than any other specific characteristic.
yes, i am a 'breeder' but more by accident at being 'scared straight' than by occident or orient. the few times i did have sex with my ex [and other females for that matter], it was a very uncomfortable experience. not one i was psychicly present for, and was emotional spiritually and physically disassociated from she and from the experience itself.
but yes i can definitely agree that what two consenting adults do in their own privacy is no one's business but their own.
thanks for the great, affirming, non-shaming discussion on behalf of gbt males in general and male survivors of sexual assault and abuse, in particular. and thank you for using your voice to honor sexual behavior in its many diverse forms.
all the best,