I know this day - my birthday - started out very well so, It is understandable that it might end NOT so well.

I am so sad. I decided to take a break from HC tonight and group T tomorrow. I also set my limits with my mom today.

I am stunned as well as sad. I know my mom will be ok and I do not want to be her doormate anymore but, I felt like I am disappointing her.

I know I need to live my own life. She has been there for me is so many great ways in the last 2 years of "recover". Maybe she was there and did not need to.

I am crying again. This is so sad and hurts. Weird I know. I am grieving something I should have never had.

Later guys and gals,

Donnie

I'm sorry your day isn't turning out so well guy. But the relationship w/ your mom was bound to head down this road anyway. Also, you realize that you do have a say about what you want to do as well. You are beginning to find your voice with your mom. This is a victory as well as a birth celebration, guy.

Your turning misery into meaningfulness. Which, oftentimes, changes day after day as you continue through recovery. Relish in this.

Remy

Sometimes, for you own good, you have to set the rules. A painful experience for me: my mother moved in with us when we returned from overseas deployment in the army, to be with her grandchildren. A couple of years back, we told her to move out. Turns out it was the healthiest thing for our relationship. My wife and her no longer butt heads as badly, I feel a little less weird and my children now love their turn staying the night with her. While your situation is different than mine, I am just saying that oftentimes setting the boundaries is painful in the process but healthier in the long run. I sure didn't feel good about myself at some points during the process but sometimes we have to do these things for our own sanity.

Hey DJ-Minneapolis is snowy huh?
I hear your sadness and honor your feelings.
I can relate to your issues with your mother and healthy boundaries-I am working on those myself today.

Happy belated birthday-what a great time of year.
My daughter's birthday was yesterday, and I was fully present the whole day!