yes jay and thank you. when you married and promised fidelity to your wife, you had made your choice to rule out all other options. not just all other options with boobs and a vagina, nor options with a penis. it does not matter what their gender is. they've been ruled out, period. to my way of understanding, that's all that's important. who cares anyway, and why? a covenant, though often proclaimed in a public setting, is a very private and personal thing, and should not be scrutinized or judged by anyone. those who judge are the ones with the 'problem'. they need to learn to mind their own business and stop acting as if their own lives are beyond reproach.
just some more of my personal thoughts on the subject.