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#313553 - 12/08/09 12:31 PM confidence & 2nd guessing
DJsport Offline
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Registered: 02/20/08
Posts: 1742
In my recovery, I am going directly to action. I have been 2nd guessing myself - this is true. You all know by seeing my many posts.

I am getting better balance in my life emotionally. While this balancing act happens emotionally the other events fall into place ie my friendships, therapy, my family interactions, money, and job.

I have drawn from the tools I know from my 12-step program. I have gotten most of my affirmation for my daily life from you guys here.

Personally, I have learned to breathe (the csa caused me to have PTSD and one of the affects was I stop breathing at emotional moments), cry when I need to, be angry when I need to, take breaks to clear my mind, exercise, consume food that is healthy (ok, I fudge a little), HAVE FUN, be present, get together with friends, be here, give back, help others, and go to the bathroom as my body needs to.

I do not go to the 3rd or 4th or more guessing myself.

I came to accept what happened to me as a boy last November. I continue to grieve but starting this summer I with the help of my T, my T group members and some great men here (Sans-Ron, Andy both Nev-FT, Sono, JDV, etc) I got to the deep sorrow and Joy Donnie missed feeling.

Now to continue and not 2nd guess my self just know I can make a decision and feel what I need to feel and be whole.

There will be bumps and mistakes made and can handle them.

I love this website and all that are here.

Keep on keeping on.

Peace,
DJ

_________________________
Live to your fullest potential

Never make someone a priority if your only an option

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#314157 - 12/12/09 09:34 PM Re: confidence & 2nd guessing [Re: DJsport]
M3 Offline
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Registered: 09/04/07
Posts: 1392
Loc: Central Ohio
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#315358 - 12/20/09 11:20 AM Re: confidence & 2nd guessing [Re: M3]
Charlie24 Offline


Registered: 09/28/08
Posts: 562
Donnie I'm horrible at second guessing myself. Tests included. I always wanna sit there and imagine every scenario possible.

I say well this could happen or that could happen and then I freak myself out and really just end up scaring myself.

It's great your getting better about these kind of things.

Good job.

I feel in a small way I am too.

Charles


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#315400 - 12/20/09 03:18 PM Re: confidence & 2nd guessing [Re: Charlie24]
philistine Offline
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Registered: 04/27/09
Posts: 209
Loc: Oregon
I have the same problem, 2nd, 3rd 4th and 5th.

I've been trying to make decisions and then let it go and just live.

_________________________
Mike

"No price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself" - Nietzsche

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#315566 - 12/21/09 06:49 PM Re: confidence & 2nd guessing [Re: philistine]
M3 Offline
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Registered: 09/04/07
Posts: 1392
Loc: Central Ohio
It's tough isn't it. Just making the decision is bad enough!


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