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#311236 - 11/20/09 11:48 PM For a Lost Soldier
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Edited by jbh8 (02/20/13 04:05 PM)

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#316766 - 12/29/09 05:50 AM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: jbh8]
boylikeme Offline


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Loc: hell

omg.. i just watched this

its the most triggerin thing ive ever seen n ive cried thru the last 20 minutes

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#316767 - 12/29/09 06:25 AM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: boylikeme]
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hard to watch
think im gonna puke now



Edited by zb420 (12/29/09 06:25 AM)

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#317918 - 01/06/10 06:56 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: zb420]
Logan Offline
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I really did not like that, yeah it was very triggering.
at least the older guy seemed to care for the kid, but still it is disturbingly wrong!

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#317996 - 01/07/10 12:38 AM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: Logan]
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Edited by jbh8 (02/20/13 03:48 PM)

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#318095 - 01/07/10 06:18 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: jbh8]
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HI, MY FRATERNAL BROTHERS.

Well, it's got me all teared up.

But, i see a lonely boy and a soldier (young man).

Two very lonely persons looking for some one to care & love them. I didn't read anything sexual in this. Yes they were in a shower together (boy is clothed), then the 2 of them on a bed, the boy running his fingers on his arm, a sign of caring & non sexual love for each other. Both in their shorts (underwear) on the bed, then the boy straddling him and kissing him.

It was during war time in Europe. But i couldn't hear the words in the song all that well (hearing aids). But i get the way that he kissed me & held me.

The only thing that was triggered in me, is the they had compassion, understanding & love for another. It seemed to me it was NON SEXUAL. Two very lonley males a boy & a man.

It reminded me of little Peter, looking for someone to love & pay attention to him. He didn't have a father and his "mom" sure didn't want anything to do with him.

So i can see me as that boy in that film.

Maybe i missed something. Thanks for showing it.

Heal well my fraternal brothers, heal well.

Little Pete & big Pete..but 1 (Irishmoose.)

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#318119 - 01/07/10 09:10 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: petercorbett]
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Edited by jbh8 (02/20/13 03:48 PM)

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#318743 - 01/13/10 09:15 AM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: jbh8]
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its nonsense and the song in the background makes it worse by the way who song the song just curiuous


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#318745 - 01/13/10 10:09 AM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: confusedknight]
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Edited by jbh8 (02/20/13 03:48 PM)

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#319200 - 01/17/10 06:03 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: jbh8]
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WWII did not make it any less or more acceptable (not that you are implying that)...but dang...this is just wrong. It does show how impressionable we were.

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#319202 - 01/17/10 06:21 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: Still]
alan55 Offline


Registered: 08/19/09
Posts: 202
Loc: Seattle, WA
I viewed it some time ago. It certainly triggered me. But that's on me since it was flagged as triggering......In other words, I knew that when I opened it to view it. What my perp did was NOT something I knew ahead of time.....this movie clip was. I'll be more careful next time....


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#319216 - 01/17/10 09:34 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: Still]
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Hey guys,

I remember seeing this film quite a while ago. I didn't like the edited version in the youtube clip with the song from Mary Chapin Carpenter I think. Seeing the whole movie is a much more balanced experience and it doesn't have the song that is suggesting something adult in its words. Like Peter, I liked the movie though the boy does get used emotionally if not physically. I guess the writer of the film wanted to believe that it might be possible for an adult to maintain sexual boundaries with a kid. The film would have you hoping that this is what really happened. Who knows. But I wouldn't bet the farm on it!

Taz


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#319262 - 01/18/10 10:49 AM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: Dale English]
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Hey,

I have seen this movie. I loved it. I don't see anything sexual going on. I had great NON-sexual relationships with older guys as a teen. They were great friends. In my early adulthood until I was 26 I was a big brother to 4 teens. We had a great connection - nothing sexual.

I can see others thinking this though. A lot of the population does not see a problem.

It is interesting how we view this movie.

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#319288 - 01/18/10 02:57 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: DJsport]
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Loc: hell

excuse me.. but all u guys who keep sayin u couldnt see anything sexual goin on mustve seen a very different version of this film..

in my version theres a scene were a naked man lies on top of a naked 12 year old boy.. strokes his head .. calls him prince n says "ure mine"..
he then offers his hand for the boy to bite down on n u can see that wotever is happening next is causin the boy pain..

i have either seen a very different version or adults r a lot more naive than i thought

this film triggered me so bad ...

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#319303 - 01/18/10 05:34 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: boylikeme]
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Hi my fraternal brothers.

Well, not haven seen the whole Story/complete film, I had based my reply on what i had seen in the clip.

But, my fraternal brother, then i would have to agree with your assesment.

But, because of my past history of abuse, i still can see me as that boy. Including what you had seen. Sad fact, but true.

Heal well my brothers, heal well.

Little Pete & big Pete..but 1 (Irishmoose).

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#319405 - 01/19/10 02:28 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: petercorbett]
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As a survivor, I reserve the right to be naive. I am very compassionate what my brothers in recovery are feeling and seeing.

When I watch this movie again I will keep my eyes open.

Peace,
DJ

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#320424 - 01/27/10 10:02 PM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: Still]
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Registered: 01/26/10
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Loc: USA
This was a painful thing to watch.


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#320992 - 02/02/10 01:24 AM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: Sir Vyver]
temeraire Offline


Registered: 05/25/09
Posts: 21
Loc: SOUTH AFRICA
TRIGGERING

The trailers and the clips on you tube are all a little decieving they portray this amazing relationship between a boy and an older man, I must admit I wanted the same thing just wanted a father figure just to be loved. But like the boy in the movie, and myself, did he want the sex no I dint think so. I connected to the sex scene and it brought out feelings and memeories long supressed namely what he was about do was not right that feeling is instinctive but you trusted him as he tells you that he loves you and he will never hurt you so you go along with it. They do try and make this movie out to be a boy love movie but dam it is nothing more than a portrayal of sexual abuce.


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#444584 - 08/18/13 02:46 AM Re: For a Lost Soldier [Re: boylikeme]
Jacob S Offline
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Registered: 01/01/13
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Originally Posted By: boylikeme

excuse me.. but all u guys who keep sayin u couldnt see anything sexual goin on mustve seen a very different version of this film..

in my version theres a scene were a naked man lies on top of a naked 12 year old boy.. strokes his head .. calls him prince n says "ure mine"..
he then offers his hand for the boy to bite down on n u can see that wotever is happening next is causin the boy pain..

i have either seen a very different version or adults r a lot more naive than i thought

this film triggered me so bad ...


This is about a boy who was lonely. Desperate for love. He found someone to give that to him. But at what price? The fact that a child is lonely does not absolve the adult. If the adult truly loved the child, he could have made him feel special without asking for certain things in return.

Sorry for the massive bump. I've been thinking about this movie all day and needed to share my feelings somewhere. Such a subtle but ultimately disgusting twist on what it means to love someone.
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