Lupin 111: We all come to that in our recovery. The realization that that was then and this is now. My slogan is "I will not let my past influence my future for it is there that I will spend the rest of my life" I always remembered the past but never thought it was a big deal. Well it damned near killed me three times and put me in harms way a hell of a lot. I tink we have to accept the past because it happened but change our feelings and emotions around the past. You know: shame, guilt, fear, loathing disgust. We all do it. For a fact I have had, up until recently, had a whol lot of problems with authority (real or imagined) Not any more.
6) On the negative side, I have found myself really irritated by silly things and silly people. I need to get back to the idea of minding my own business and not being bothered by those who really shouldn't bother me. I am too snippy even with my wife and I need to calm that down.
Now that is a tough one. I am just like that. What I try and do is count to 10 , take deep breaths or get up and go someplace like the water cooler or fo a coffee. At home I try to make a real effort to not be snippy with my wife. Does not always work but I am working on it.
I think that we do have to confront our past in order to recognize what we are dealing with. Not a ghost or spectre but real stuff.
Lupin you are doing great my brother. keep it up