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#310025 - 11/11/09 03:37 PM tattoo
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Greetings all,

Just recently started to face my demons. Luckily I have a great T here in NJ who is also a MS Mod, and a good man. I feel bad saying this, reading some recent posts, but I have been feeling good lately. Especially since disclosing to my wife. Not an easy decision as my fears were unwarrented and foolish but they were mine and I now own them.

Anywho.... I've recently been thinking about a tattoo. I've never been the type, and had previous religious and family beliefs against them. However, I am my own person, and don't want to bow down to other peoples foolishness. My wife is not keen on the idea but I'm just thinking about it for now.

So do you all have any survivor type tattoos?

I've been thinking on the lines of releasing my demons. Although I don't want to get to crazy in size or evilness. I just started to look at some art, but I'm liking eyes/creature/demon ripping out of the skin.

Ken, I'll talk to you about it on Saturday.

Your thoughts.

Sorry this should be moved to Off-Topic, could a mod do that please.



Edited by Castle (11/11/09 04:15 PM)
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#310029 - 11/11/09 04:41 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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Castle,

My mom and dad were never really hot on tattoos and I have respected their wish on not getting a tattoo until I was of age. Ironically enough my mom is actually expressed interest in getting her own personal tattoo.

I have one tattoo that is a visual de>
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#310087 - 11/11/09 11:12 PM Re: tattoo [Re: 1islandboy]
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Castle,

I have four tats. I have three on my upper right arm and one on my upper left.

Each one has meaning for me and were done at times I felt the need/desire for them. I have no regrets and took some flack from family and friends. But it is my body.

That is the whole thing for me in a nutshell. The first one was like saying that this is my body and not for anyone else to use. It was a branding of sorts - but in a non harmful or abusive way.

Good luck if you decide to get one or more. Choose ones that have meaning for you. And choose someone who you connect with and not just some guy or gal. It makes a true difference.

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#310088 - 11/11/09 11:13 PM Re: tattoo [Re: prisonerID]
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I have four tats. I have three on my upper right arm and one on my upper left


growllllll!!!! blush


LOL

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#310102 - 11/12/09 12:37 AM Re: tattoo [Re: Sans Logos]
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I don't have any tats.

But I have a dog. laugh


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#310103 - 11/12/09 12:38 AM Re: tattoo [Re: pufferfish]
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#310107 - 11/12/09 12:58 AM Re: tattoo [Re: Sans Logos]
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Just make sure you properly picture the body part you wished to have tattooed in an advanced state of age and how said tattoo would look on skin that is no longer quite as taut.

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#310142 - 11/12/09 10:10 AM Re: tattoo [Re: sono]
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Sono,

Not going into this lightly placement is as important as the art.

Prisnor,

If you don't mind what type of art do you have?

Pufferfish,

We just had to put our dog down. He was a 15 yo black pug. He had alzheimers. We also have 2 cats around the same age. One went blind for 2 weeks, acclamated to the house and then regained vision. Pets are amazing.

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#310163 - 11/12/09 01:59 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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Originally Posted By: sono
Just make sure you properly picture the body part you wished to have tattooed in an advanced state of age and how said tattoo would look on skin that is no longer quite as taut.

This reminds me of the Saturday Night Live spoof a few years ago with a young woman sporting a tattoo on her lower back that said "Pretty Lady". Then they flashed years ahead and showed what it looked like on her as an old lady...The tattoo changed to "Pretty Sad".

I'm a tattoo free ex-Navy guy. I've never cared for tattoos and never desired one. Although, strangely enough, I have had dreams (yes more than one, not recentley though) where I had gotten a tattoo while in the Navy then felt awful about it. Kind of odd thing to be dreaming about.

Originally Posted By: prisonerID
The first one was like saying that this is my body and not for anyone else to use. It was a branding of sorts - but in a non harmful or abusive way.

I like this reasoning for a survivor tattoo though. It makes sense to me. It still doesn't inspire me to get one though but that's me.

Castle, it is good that you are putting some thought into this and asking for input.

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#310167 - 11/12/09 03:10 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Barkabus]
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I have always associated Tats with being the badest of the bad as my perp had one.

**** triggers *****

He was in the Marines when when I told him at age 12 to leave me alone. I thought he was the toughest and badest and would kill me.

He walked out.

A tattoo entitled "freedom" is on my list.

But, I want to make sure I am doing the survivor me and NOT for the victim me. He never owned me to begin with.

Castle and others this thread makes this process fun.

Good luck Castle.

DJ



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#310182 - 11/12/09 05:13 PM Re: tattoo [Re: DJsport]
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Ron - you always crack me up.

Allen - don't have to feed tats.

Mike - I appreciated your words of understanding.

Castle - I answered this in the chat with you this afternoon. I hate to say since this is a public forum even though odds are limited anyone I know would see it.

As for tats or not tats? I think it is a personal choice but do not see why anyone would care if another person got one. It was my decision to make and I have no regrets.

Good luck, Castle. Keep us posted.

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#310202 - 11/12/09 07:11 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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I'm the last person you'd think would have a tattoo but I got my first and only one during Independence weekend this year. It says 'a survivor' in Korean (my wife and I adopted children from Korea).

I'm a huge believer in there being a diffence between being a victim (what happened to me) and a survivor (what I'm doing about it/with it). I wanted a tattoo that marked that change or transition/committment for me.

Tattoos are (or at least in my opinion should be) intensely personal though so I'd encourage you to really explore what you want it to signify for you alone and then do that for yourself. I will take a picture of mine and figure out some way to post it if I can.

My two cents

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#310209 - 11/12/09 08:00 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Survivinguy]
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Well... I suppose I should chime in here, especially since I haven't chimed for a while.

I have my fair share of ink. My first was young and dumb, small and off the wall. No thought put into it, and I've always regretted it. But, like you, It seemed that I needed an outlet for the parts and pieces of my life that never really made any sense. Particularly, the darker parts. My back is one big story that I'm still telling. It's a work based around the 8 auspicious symbols of Buddhism, but each symbol also tells a story about my past, my present, and my future. The scene occurs in a Tibetan garden with a temple on a mountain, and the sun setting in the background. An old cherry blossom next to a pond are in the foreground. The symbols are embedded throughout the scene.

I'm not really one for the monsters ripping out of the body type of tattoos, but that's just me. I also agree with others, you must also consider location and size. If you're going to get a tattoo, small is just going to look like melanoma in a few years.

I consider my ink an art piece. Thus I would also advise you to choose your artist wisely. Don't just let anyone do it. Get references. Lastly. Remember. They really do hurt like hell.

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#418101 - 12/03/12 10:40 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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#418122 - 12/04/12 12:53 AM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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For me, getting inked was part of taking back my body.

I have five - one on each forearm, covering my track scars (from too many needles...). One on my wrist, covering a scar from a suicide attempt, and two on my back, covering some of the worst scars from the physical abuse. I put a lot of thought into the designs, and every tattoo has a strong symbolic link to the specific scar it covers. I love every one of them and if I had my life over, I would get exactly the same tattoos in the same places again smile
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#418147 - 12/04/12 09:58 AM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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I got one ten years ago to mark some of the tough work I had done in therapy. And the freedom I experienced rejecting a lot of the negative messages my parents tsught me.

It's on my Left hip and from a popular kids movie from 2002 about a mustang horse in the American West who got captured and domesticated and found a way out to freedom to his true self and native land.

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/510AYM86PHL._SL500_AA300_.jpg

I've considered another one-since my Csa recovery started three years ago: a mourning black armband.


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#418166 - 12/04/12 02:07 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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I have always wanted one but have always held back for fear of being judged. They are way more acceptable now. I have been thinking about getting one a fair bit lately. But it is something nice churchy boys don't do. I know my wife would not approve.

It is kind of like I want to mark my body as my own. But also that I want to warn other to stay away from me. If that makes sense.

I have wanted a black arm band around my bicep of barbed wire for as long as I can remember. I have never thought of it as a mourning armband though...thanks for the idea Buck.

I'm glad this came up again.
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#418168 - 12/04/12 02:21 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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#418192 - 12/04/12 07:09 PM Re: tattoo [Re: Castle]
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i, too, have thought about it recently. something to mark a change. i even have a design in mind. and i'd put it on my upper arm - where it could be seen - but not all the time and not too big.

my wife and kids and boss and friends and co-workers would all be totally shocked. they would all think it was completely out of character. maybe that's a good reason to do it! like saying - you don't know as much about me as you think.

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#418225 - 12/05/12 05:58 AM Re: tattoo [Re: traveler]
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my wife and kids and boss and friends and co-workers would all be totally shocked. they would all think it was completely out of character. maybe that's a good reason to do it! like saying - you don't know as much about me as you think.


Exactly!

Lee (traveler) What design did you have in mind?
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#418228 - 12/05/12 06:13 AM Re: tattoo [Re: Suwanee]
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Otherwise, I'm a button down shirt and khaki chino kind of guy.


Me too! - except downunder we say 'button up shirt' - must be something to do with the equator. smile
Or least I used to be when I worked in an office. I still am when I'm not working on the farm.

When I'm on the farm I wear a lot of singlets (it is hot here - not very sun safe though) so it would be seen a bit. I probably need to stop wearing singlets anyway.

Maybe if it is at the top of my bicep rather than the middle it won't show with short sleeve shirts???

I don't know....at 35 it feels like a bit of a midlife crisis sort of thing to do. But then do I really care? Well I am entering midlife and dealing with this stuff is a crisis....So...

Lee - I'll get mine if you get yours. wink
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