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#308574 - 10/29/09 10:17 PM Why did I keep coming back?
sportinrucks Offline
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Registered: 10/01/04
Posts: 423
Loc: Louisiana
I dont know why this guy did it, he was 13 or 14 I was like 7 or 8 but I kept going back over there and he kept doing the same thing to me over and over again, it hurt and I was scared shitless but I kept coming back


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#308630 - 10/30/09 10:51 AM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: sportinrucks]
DJsport Offline
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Registered: 02/20/08
Posts: 1742
Hi, Sport.

I am not sure in your case why you went back.

I went back because I in my child mind thought it was fun and I idolized him. I was little and kids - boys - congregate to older boys naturally.

Your not alone,

Peace,
DJ

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#308723 - 10/31/09 02:52 AM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: DJsport]
LilacLouie Offline


Registered: 07/02/09
Posts: 359
Loc: Utah
I wasn't in that spot. Instead the only friend that showed any attention to me was gay. But, I was starved for attention. I was desperate. We were the same age, and in that case I chalk that part of my history up to experimentation. But I can say at least I know I'm NOT gay. It's not my cup of tea.


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#308873 - 11/01/09 03:55 AM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: LilacLouie]
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Registered: 07/25/03
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Maybe because you were a kid and enjoyed the attention. Maybe curious, afraid, liked feeling special with an older friend. Who knows or remembers exactly. One thing is for sure. Don't feel guilty about it for even one second. You were the victim, not an equal in the situation.

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#308906 - 11/01/09 01:29 PM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: Andrew]
many_mees Offline
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Registered: 10/23/09
Posts: 286
sportin
I don't have an answer for you but have been there and know your struggle with this.

Just know that you are not alone.

Sam


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#308961 - 11/01/09 11:02 PM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: many_mees]
Freedom49 Offline
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Registered: 12/30/07
Posts: 2723
Loc: Washington State
The loneliness and abandonment was worse than the pain. So I kept coming back.


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#308970 - 11/02/09 12:51 AM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: Freedom49]
sono Offline
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Registered: 07/19/09
Posts: 1069
I had no place else to go.

s

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#308997 - 11/02/09 07:44 AM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: Freedom49]
LilacLouie Offline


Registered: 07/02/09
Posts: 359
Loc: Utah
Originally Posted By: Freedom49
The loneliness and abandonment was worse than the pain. So I kept coming back.

yep....


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#309002 - 11/02/09 08:41 AM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: LilacLouie]
J1 Offline
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Registered: 04/24/07
Posts: 137
Loc: Missouri
I do not know why the perps do this..in some articles I read, it is clear they learn or try this activity from another abuser..so in some views the perp is repeating behaviour the perp has been a party to...and it keeps going... In my case it was at first family..so I was too young to even process the abuse much less be a runaway. We were in the suburbs, I could go to school and have a few friends..but each nite I had to be in that house....

Its such completely draining confusion...we unconciously repeat the victim part to either survive, have a roof over our head , or get some attention... I dont think there is a rational explanation , that an outsider would understand... and I feel we survivors beat ourselves up too much on this issue. I cannot change what happened..but I can make choices today, about fitness, diet,what I read and where I walk. Some of our brothers in survival, cannot even do this stuff..they may be physically challenged, incarcerated or bed ridden...soooo its vital that the guys like me and you, push onward...clearing a path for that new guy that may very well come into MS today or tomorrow.and seek our community..HUGS/ JEFF


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#309099 - 11/02/09 10:54 PM Re: Why did I keep coming back? [Re: J1]
krayoss Offline
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Registered: 02/18/01
Posts: 112
Loc: west
Well said Jeff


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